When I first met him he had lots of stories that don't match these days. I am wondering if he was trying to impress me or something else. I have been thinking about it lately and it's not making any sense. At least, when he met me, I didn't have that perfect demeanor I exude. I was vulnerable, although I didn't show it. Looking back I can't pin my fingers on what it was about me that made him lie.
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He liked cooking
False. He told me he loved cooking so much that he did almost all the meals in his house. According to him, his mum prefers he makes the meals and puts him in charge of her health because he was a clean freak. I'll talk about the clean part later.
I have spent time with him long enough to discover he lied. He doesn't like cooking as much he claimed. Oh, there's something else, he used to brag about how tasty his meals are and how he could blow minds with his recipes.
Well, I have placed him in a position where he prepared meals for me, about 6 times or so, and only once had the meal come out well. This one time I didn't like the taste, I only loved the part where there were plenty fishes. Knowing he fucked up, he apologizes for every time this happens.
I know meals do not come out well at all times because shits happen. But to get up to 5 times with the same results means something is fishy. I keep comparing myself and putting myself in the picture. I do know that I wasn't someone who knew how to cook nor liked cooking and have come to learn. I can make better meals and can calculate how the food would turn out depending on the number of ingredients used. Now, this human who tells me he is a great cook can't do the same, isn't that odd?
In short, I thought someone who claimed he loves cooking should be caught in the kitchen more times than someone who doesn't. I have proof because I had a friend who loved cooking and always loved every opportunity to show off his cutlery skills. It's not the same with this friend of mine. He tries to pass up mealtime to me. If I bring up the topic that he should make the meal for the day, I receive, some sort of hesitation.
He is a clean freak
Forget it. My mum and my sister are both clean freaks and I know exactly how clean freaks behave. Not this guy. Do you remember I told you how he said he is always obsessed with cleanliness so bad that his mum puts him in charge of his health? Well, he lied.
I have spent enough time with him to know he lied. You can't believe we both got sick because I was testing the limit to which he can go in an unclean environment. Once I wrote how I slave to keep my surroundings clean because I get sick if I don't, but this time, I let the cleaning starve because of my investigations and I got sick. It lasted for over a week, after I recovered, I promised not to jeopardize my health in that manner again. Dad always told me to know myself, and in this category, I know I will get sick if I neglect cleaning. My friend lied because he lived as comfortably as possible in the situation I presented and I was surprised.
There are other things
Yes, they are. Lots of them, I can't begin to share all of them today. He lied about caring about other people, he doesn't. At this point when I think about it, I concluded that he cared about others if the outcome benefited him. Unless it was to his advantage, he would care. The moment he doesn't look like it, he takes his bags and leaves. He is quite manipulative, and I feel bad for believing his lies.
I know someone had written that when someone shows you their true selves believe them. This friend has confirmed this to be true. His word doesn't match his actions. And the most amazing thing is that his circle of friends is like this too. They say things they don't mean. They say things when it favors them. They don't keep secrets but expect you to. They say things and do the opposite thing. Their words never match their actions. Again, they make promises they don't keep. The last part I have recognized is they do this in a bit to keep you in bondage.
Now, I have learned a clear lesson about people, "When their words don't match their actions, run, for actions speak louder than words"