Not until I read this prompt question "Are you silent or expressive when angry?", I haven't really taken detailed note on how I am when I'm angry but I do know that I'm not the kind to get angry easily. If only I could live without getting angry at all, that would have been better but I have an alternative since I can't be without getting angry.
The first time I watched someone hit another person so badly out of anger, I was so surprised and wondered if there was another reason, and not because he was angry. It's really shocking the height angry can take someone to, if not controlled. I've also seen someone go very calm when he is angry that you'd think he's not angry.
Anger sure has many faces and while there have been very few positive things about anger, there are way more negative outcomes from angry people or angry situations. Just yesterday, I witnessed a bike man get beaten up because he was trying to run away from something he did wrong. I understand he was wrong but the anger from the man hitting him also was wrong to me.
While I don't get angry easily, it's a fact that I have gotten angry at many points in my life for different reasons but somehow, my reaction to each situation or reason changes but never to the extreme as I've seen some people do. I think the environment we grow in, the kind of people we associate ourselves with and most importantly for me, our beliefs influences our way of anger.
"I am more of the silent person when I'm angry" but that's after I've said some things on impulse and most of the time, I wish I didn't say them. No matter the level of anger, words still holds power and some words are best not spoken but then, anger when not controlled will make you say words you don't mean but could harm another.
I have been expressive when I got angry a very few times but only a hit and it was on my little brother when he pisses me off too much. I end up apologising if I calm down later to understand I overdid it but most of the times, it helped him understand what he did wrong. Aside that, I get even scared to use my strength when I'm angry.
The one thing I've been practicing over a few years now regarding my anger mood is, staying away from the person or the situation that got me angry. Not that I'll stay away totally and for long but just away at that time I feel my anger is very strong and I could do or say something I'll regret later and if the person keeps being annoying.
Anger is just another emotion that can be expressed but not excessively, it's human to be angry but as the Bible advice and health wise, it's best to not stay angry for too long. Learning to do less talking keeping calm when I'm angry is what I try to do now. Experience have taught me better.
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