Annoyance is an emotion everyone experiences for different reasons and at different points in our lives. It could be something simple or big, but they get into us and make us angry, especially if it's something that doesn't align with our personal values that we hold in high esteem. Ignoring such may just appear difficult, and we are annoyed.
Personally, there are three things that get me annoyed the most. One of them is when people consistently make excuses instead of taking action or simply doing the needful. The aspect that gets me annoyed the most is when I am trying to help you build on something, or maybe I am showing an opportunity to help you grow due to your complaints over financial challenges. Once you start making irrelevant excuses, I am already upset with you. Can excuses bring food to our table? Of course not! So why not drop those bunch of excuses and take action?
It's more annoying to see the same person plead for financial assistance month to month, year to year, like repeatedly when he or she has the capacity to generate this fund herself. Instead of diverting the energy for asking help around into building yourself, you choose a shortcut. Growth is possible; learning is also possible. It's all about being intentional about it. Maybe because of the kind of zeal I have whenever it's about growth for me, but it just makes more sense to stop giving excuses and take action.
Sometimes, it could be that someone got things wrong, and while I am expressing myself, clarifying to the person on where he or she got it wrong, the person is busy giving me reasons why she made the mistake. What happened to saying sorry instead of saying epistles of reasons for your wrong? Just take action at once without many excuses.
Another thing that gets me annoyed is when I hear of a particular piece of personal information I disclosed to you out of trust. I love it more when you sincerely tell me that you may not be able to keep a particular piece of information to yourself rather than making me believe that I can trust you with what bothers me, and when I step out, I begin to hear such from other people. It's an attitude I detest so much, and it gets me annoyed whenever I experience such.
Finally, how do you feel when you are constantly interrupted? Something happened, and you are trying to pass a message to the other person, but the person wouldn't allow you to make one complete statement without interrupting your speech. I used to be like that with my husband, but I learned to stop it. Sometimes, people can get angry over your actions, and they want to address it; no matter how impatient you can be, interrupting me in the process is a no-no. Just be calm enough and allow me to express myself. Whether the conversation is between me and an older person or my junior ones, I don't like being interrupted, and I have learned not to interrupt others too but to be patient enough to speak at the right time.
This post was inspired by the #inleo community and my entry to the #aprilinleo monthly topic Day 9. You can check out the prompt to get involved..
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