You will reach a point in your life where you will get to understand what 'standard' in relationship means.
You will either learn this by experience or by observation, i am not sure of the effectiveness of the latter.
As you grow in wisdom and experience, you will begin to judge what love truly means beyond fickle hormonal emotions and fear of being alone.
You begin to think like...
That we have sex doesn't mean you love me.
That i am always here to kiss and comfort you when you are down doesn't mean i love you.
That we spend time together doesn't mean we deeply love each other. You know what love will begin to look like to you?
- progress
- value and
-Effort.
If we are together and no matter how long it has been, if we never and still not making conscious effort to support each others' growth, then we are just having a nice time exchanging bodily fluids.
If we can do the above mentioned to each other selflessly, then we are deeply in-love. selflessly in such a way that,
'I know you offended me, but baby, we will talk about it later, how far, did you send the proposal, what did they say?'
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You within yourself
'oh, i badly want to know who Vivian is, but naah, i wont bring this topic now, let me allow you to finish working first.'
love is patience and understanding,
'it is not about me now. i know that when i start to talk about some heat issues, it will affect your mood and you will lose the sanity to grab that contract, so baby i wish you well.'
some of us are so selfish and shallow minded that we don't care what our outburst is going to cost our partner at the moment, " i am a blunt person, i want explanations and i want it now"
It might be a very wrong time, but who cares, long as your feelings are satisfied. no patience, no wisdom.
Now you know the truth, you are either hurt or not, the other person's sanity for productivity that day is damaged, what have you achieved?
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experience will teach you wisdom and sharpen your perspective about love, you will kow that beyond kissing and sex, there is peace and Positive effort.