There's a local saying in my region, "Sadness comes after a happy time." So don't laugh too hard or enjoy too much but prepare for the bad time. Elders used to say this during childhood when we laughed uncontrollably.
Although I never said the same to my son, I often feel a heaviness in my heart when something good happens, thinking something bad would happen afterward.
And it sure happens!
Is that magic? Our fate? Is the saying true? Or it's just my brain? I thought about it growing up and built an answer for myself.
Life is not a smooth path. Who would ever say they never have come across any ups and downs? Even the richest face some emotional instability, if not financial. And believe me, it makes their life hell.
Thinking happiness comes with a cost is an absurd idea. Rather, we can say it this way, "there will be ups and downs in life, and nothing is permanent. If you have seen the good side, you will see the opposite and this circle will go on."
You may have seen the same pattern in life. And there's nothing bad about it. Think, how life would be if the bad time would never end. It's good to have some hardship, otherwise life would be boring, no?
I sometimes think, why elders used to say that? Do they not like to see our happiness? What made them so fearful about a happy life? Later I realized, they came through a lot and life gave them a hard learning. They almost forget to be purely happy in the fear of getting burned by it.
There's another side of the story. People, back then and even now feel guilty about sharing happiness and seeing others struggling. I do sometimes feel the same.
For example, I usually don't share my son's success story with anyone other than my close family members. I also do not post anything on my social media because of the 'evil eye'.
Probably all this impacted the idea that we have to pay a cost for our happiness.
I believe that our pattern of thought is a mirror of our life. You will get to see what you are thinking. So it's better to think positively, no?
Don't believe in any nonsense (to you), believe in what you believe. What do you think? If the saying is correct? Or it's just a coincidence of life?
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Text: Written by me, corrected by Grammarly