Hello my amazing family ,hope we are all doing alright today.
As I look outside my window and watch the sunrise I feel the warmth of the suns rays hit my skin the calmness it brings to my heart almost makes me shed tears bringing back forgotten memories from my past, I have felt this way before, the relaxation, the warmth ,the gentle touch and scent that floods my senses.
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WHAT IS LOVE
what is love?, does true love even exist?, that's the greatest anigma of our times.
as a young lad growing up I have always been very empathic, I find my self showing deep connection to people that are hurting, I have been told several times that I would cry and shed tears when I see another child get hurt in the play ground when I was in kindergarten.
I would rush to lend a helping hand to an elderly person in need.
this has always been the norm for me eventually molding me to become the adult that I'm today.
this kind of love is described as agape or empathic love it is a love that is described as a giving kind of love, this love really does not expect or require reciprocation.
growing up and getting to the point where the love you give out should be reciprocated became a totally unique experience for me.
PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT AND SO ARE THEIR EXPECTATIONS
Going through the different relationship I have had I always learnt a new thing about people and that is people are very different. most times when your lover does something that you don't like you get hurt and you get upset because you feel betrayed, the truth is they most of the times don't intentionally want to hurt you they just didn't know or think it through.
going into a love relationship has always been an open book for me choosing to give my all even though there is a possibility I would get hurt I still do it non the less.
I'm always of the opinion that love should be experienced per individual not in comparison with someone else.
A TAIL OF TWO SIDES
Their was a time in my life that I feel so deeply in love with a lady, she was charismatic, charming, brilliant and a very kind soul, we did everything together, we were basically inseparable.
we had built dreams of the future, picked out were we would live, the kind of house we would live in even going the point of naming our kids that where not even born, it was indeed a dream for me, we connected at every level possible.
As the months rolled into years we grew up and grew apart, life actually happened. I would always reach out to her explaining that I noticed we where drifting apart, she would blame it on work and schedule but I knew deep down that if we continued on that path we would eventually loose the love that we once held so dearly. eventually she started seeing someone and I held on I just didn't want to loose the love we ones shared.
I knew that starting over with someone new was the right thing to do but I just didn't want to let go of the dreams and aspirations we had, it almost felt like I was giving up on our love even though I knew she had moved on, I later realised I was no more concerned about the love we had but the idea of it, I was addicted to the idea of being in a love triangle that could stand the test of time, to prove to myself and those who knew us that our love stood the test of time and prevailed eventually, I wanted that to be our story so badly that I held on even though their was no end at sight.
KNOW WHEN TO SAY GOODBYE
eventually I had to let go and start again, and amazing I met someone who the love is completely mutual, what I did was to put all the experiences, mistakes I had learnt from the old relationship and made myself a better person.
MY LESSONS
love should be mutual and reciprocated.
it's ok to start again.
find healing and self growth.
learn to embrace your mistakes.
find happiness again.
always try again, love is free and it's everywhere if you care to look for it.
thank you all for the read hope you learnt something new from this.