Hi besties good morning I’m happy to be here this is my first time posting here😊 seeing others post, encouraged me to post and honestly I’m glad I did. At some point while making this post I had to pause and read what I was writing ✍️ yea I was fully absorbed in my writing had to pause and read.
I just wanted to share something I thought about….have you ever gotten to a point where you feel numb? how do you even know you feel numb ? numbness is that state where you go quiet emotionally you know you are supposed to feel joy, love, happiness many other feelings but it doesn’t just come.
Things that could cause emotional numbness
Showing care and not getting same in return have made a lot of people exhausted.
They are people that have always been givers but have never experience what it feels like to receive love, care, kindness.
They are people who light up the room with their smile, positive energy but have not received same energy it’s exhausting!!!
Most times when you seek a good friendship, relationship, people make you feel like you are asking for too much it’s like they are only interested in what you can give, they even make it feel like you are eager or in need of same thing you give to them effortlessly. If you look at things you will understand that even givers also wants to receive they want to be cared for too, loved and understood. People just want to give love and also receive same in return but asking for care, attention or reciprocation seems like a lot . Those request would only be given to you when you meet their own terms to some they expect labor from you, for their love in return for example: they want you to run errands for them, care for their needs, some expect Gifts; But if u keep giving out all these to get love in return, the true intention for love might start to fade and when you keep giving but don’t receive, you will always get to the point where you ask yourself again!!where did I go wrong again.
Most people have exhausted so much energy trying to be present for people who won’t be present for them and at that point when there’s nothing else to give you start feeling exhausted, uninterested and emotionally numb.
I just want to say if you are in that situation where you are feeling numb, exhausted, feeling like given up and uninterested, It’s very okay to feel that way, you are not the problem, you gave love and didn’t get in return but you can’t remain that way because if you look at it, you are saying they won. So they hurt you and you still give them the ability to control your life moving forward? yes? you are quiet because of what you had to go through and it’s affecting a lot, you need to reconnect emotionally with your self but this time you won’t be doing things the usual way.
How to come out of emotional numbness
1.Rest give yourself a break, take all the time you need, your resting doesn’t make you lazy, it’s sometimes therapy.
2.Don’t be too hard on yourself, stop self blaming instead reconnect with your body take a walk, read books, Watch movies or funny videos.
3.You can put your feelings in writing or talk to someone about it.
4.You will need to set boundaries this time.
5.Self Growth; The best glow is self improvement learn a skill, keep fit, work on your confidence trust me a lot will change and you would be glad you did. No one gets anything done out of self pity, also don’t overplay your role in people’s life, you can take little steps, you don’t need to be hard on yourself; things would get better.
Your comments and contributions will be appreciated.
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