On Valentine’s Day, my lover and I had a real heart-to-heart talk. It was the most honest conversation we have had in about a week, and definitely the longest. So long that we had to pause and continue later in the evening, this time in our living room, with a cozy little setup for a Netflix and chill kind of date. We talked. We laughed. We were open to each other.
But the part that stayed with me the most was when he looked at me, he always looks straight into my eyes when he talks. I think he believes I listen better that way and he said, “If anything happens to our marriage tomorrow, nobody wins and nobody loses. We both lose.” He repeated it again, slowly, so it could sink in. Then he went on: “You can’t be a good wife to me if I’m a bad husband to you. And I can’t be a good husband to you if you’re a bad wife to me. Do you know what that means?” He answered his own question.
It means marriage is steady work. You and I have to put in the effort to make it work. It’s not one-sided it’s a partnership. That’s why it takes two to tango. There will be days we disagree and agree to disagree, but what matters most is how quickly we resolve things between us. And remember no third party. I did not argue, I did not interrupt, I just listened.
And when the words settled, I curled into his arms and quietly fell asleep feeling safe, peaceful, and certain. Certain that love is not about perfection or never having hard conversations. It is about choosing each other, doing the work, protecting the bond, and finding rest in the same arms even after the realest talks. That night reminded me that we are not opponents but we are partners. And as long as we keep choosing us, even the hardest days will not stand a chance.
who do you think should be blamed for a failed marriage??