Body shaming comes in different forms and, sadly, some people don't even know how to talk to people without body shaming them.
All of us do it, whether openly or secretly and sometimes it's out of ignorance and I don't blame some people, to some extent.
I mean if everybody were given the chance to choose the kind of body size, weight, and height they want, you would be surprised and amazed by people's choices.
Everyone has their ideal body type, size, shape, and weight.
The struggle between weight gain and weight loss is almost the same so if one is blessed with an average or equalized size then it's not a privilege to mock or body shame others who aren't.
If you are neither extremely thin nor fat then you are of all men most fortunate but it's not a license to body shame others.
Growing up, I have never been body shamed, or perhaps I never understood what it meant to body shame people so I didn't put it into consideration or let my tender little mind be troubled.
I was always nagged by my parents and grandparents, even my aunties for not wanting to eat proper food to gain some weight but rather feed on junk and snacks. Sometimes I was scolded and called all sorts of things like lanky, thin, and skeleton. I was mistaken to be too tall, (long) at my age being that I was obviously very slim
In case you aren't aware, being slim makes you look rather taller than your actual height lol, that's a funny truth. A slim or thin person's height will always be more obvious compared to someone who has weight or is thick.
A rare picture of my transformation
I never understood at that time that I was being body shamed for being too slim. I only grew up loving my body, my size, and my height
Nothing they said got to me. It's funny how things don't easily get to me except it's beyond boundaries.
At that time, I was the tallest among my siblings even when I was the second child. I was the thinnest too lol. I still don't eat much and I still find my joy in snacks and junk, don't blame me, I am happy with my life😌😁
However, I never thought I would add flesh or be thicker than I was when I was younger.
Although I think maturity struck me and did something to my body, people started saying I was looking thick and asking what I've been feeding.
The question seemed a little weird and awkward sometimes, I mean I am still eating the same meal I've been eating over time but with a little more junk lol.
So when those questions came during that time, I was shocked myself, I don't even think I had noticed the changes in my body but I only know that at a point, I usually felt heavy, tired, and easily wearied.
This was when I accepted my predicament of weight gain and it felt very different.
The compliments I got were quite different from what I used to get when I was thinner.
This is when it struck me that I was actually body-shamed the whole time back in those days.
I usually fight off negative thoughts or compliments, that's my personal growth process, I don't let things get to me.
So when my friends share their predicament, I ask myself if I could ever stand anyone doing or saying such things to me and I don't react or give them a piece of my mind. I am not the type that takes shameful compliments for granted.
And I don't give anyone the chance or privilege of even saying any rubbish to my face, they are welcome to do it behind my back but never to my face.
Stop Body Shaming!
Some people are hurting by the shameful comments we throw around and call jokes. It's not everyone that can handle negative comments or compliments and so we should be careful of the things we joke about.
It's not everyone that grew up like most of us did who didn't allow negativity to have its way in our lives.
Some people grew up with low self-esteem and things easily get to them.
Some people are fighting battles and hateful comments are the last things they wanna add to their problem.
I have seen friends who earnestly try all their best to either gain some weight or lose it cause they are tired of being mocked or ridiculed.
They can't handle the mental pain anymore, the hurtful comments, etc.
It's sad to see what these people go through daily.
But more than anything, I think we should all learn to love and accept ourselves the way we are and not give room for negativity.
Eat well, exercise if you need to, and drink lots of water and take care of your health.
Don't let what people say about your weight or size bother you, don't let them get to you.
Have a wonderful weekend!
PS: Photo is mine except stated otherwise
𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐫
𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐖𝐚𝐤𝐲! 𝐀 𝐦𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢-𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐳𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫. 𝐀 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐝𝐝𝐬.
𝐈 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐞𝐱𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐛𝐲 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐚 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐢𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐞 "𝐀𝐛𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞".
𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐪𝐮𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐝𝐲𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐜 𝐰𝐚𝐲
𝐇𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐎𝐌𝐄 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐏𝐀𝐂𝐄.
𝑨𝒑𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏
𝑻𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔! 𝑴𝒚 𝒘𝒐𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒐𝒓𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒆𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒉𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔!
𝑻𝒐 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅, 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒈𝒐𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒈𝒖𝒚𝒔. 𝑻𝒐 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒄𝒖𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒆𝒆𝒎𝒔 𝒎𝒚 𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒊𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒔𝒖𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕.
𝑰 𝒂𝒎 𝒔𝒂𝒚𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒚 𝒋𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒏 𝑯𝑰𝑽𝑬 𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝒙𝒄𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒖𝒏-𝒇𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝑻𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒍𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒖𝒑𝒗𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔, 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒓𝒆𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒔. 𝑰 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑮𝒐𝒅 𝒃𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 :)
14 October 2022
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