When we feel grief as a child and our caregivers are absent or unable to comfort us through presence or reassuring words, we grow up searching for someone else to “say the right words” to us.
The “right words” are often the things we wish our caregivers could have said to us instead of shaming, blaming or reprimanding us.
Many times when we feel heart-broken or lonely, it is our heart yearning for our own compassionate attention.
What if we could bypass that search for another to say these “right words” and become “the one we have been waiting for?”
Here are 25 phrases that have the power to mend a broken heart…whether it is your child, your inner child or a lonely traveler that has crossed your path.
- Thank you for your patience with me
- I desire to be more present and receptive to you
- Please forgive my reactions
- You don't have to forgive me now
- I recognize that I have acted in ways that have hurt you and caused you to lose trust in me
- How may I serve you and be a better listener?
- I receive you in this moment
- I always want to cultivate love with you
- I care about your heart and your happiness
- I'm here to listen
- I'm on your side
- I feel your desire for harmony
- I feel your desire for safety and understanding
- I'm sorry for hindering your tender heart expressions
- I always want to know how you feel
- You deserve more love not less
- Your thoughts and feelings are important to me
- You have the best ideas and solutions
- I want to know your deepest hearts desires
- I see that my actions have hurt you so many times
- I can sense your heart breaking
- I feel your desire to connect and feel heard
- I feel your desire to shift old patterns and try a different way
- I see how much you've suffered
- Can we lean into this and walk through this together?
What would you say to your child self to mend your heart?
Loving all of you,
đź’•Pachee