The subject of how long is of interest to all of us because the time spent making love is an important element in the success or failure of a sexual relationship.
A man who ejaculates too quickly may not give his partner time to reach orgasm.
A man who ejaculates too quickly may not give his partner enough time to reach orgasm, and similarly, sex that lasts too long may be unpleasant for the woman.
Today, men invest in their relationship as a couple, they want their partners to enjoy making love with them and they know that for this she needs more time than they do, but exactly how much time?
Of course, there is no normal length of sexual intercourse, each man and each woman are different, but I have some very interesting information and figures today that will probably surprise you because the ideal length of sexual intercourse and the average time spent making love by couples is quite far from what we imagine.
As a rule, there are many false messages conveyed by pornography in the field of sexuality and the length of sexual intercourse is one of them.
This is why I decided to make this blog and I will soon make another one for men who want to learn how to control their ejaculation and make love for longer where I will explain through exercises and techniques how to have sex last longer.
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But in the meantime, I’m going to explain to you what the ideal duration of intercourse is for a woman and for how long people make love.
When I talk about the duration of a sexual intercourse, I'm talking about the time spent making love from penetration to ejaculation, leaving aside the foreplay, which is called coitus.
Of course, foreplay is an extremely important part of a successful sexual relationship, and it helps to raise the partner's sexual arousal faster and to help her have an orgasm easily and quickly even if the duration of intercourse is shorter.
For accuracy of measurement, we will just look at coitus at the duration of penetration,
A study was done on more than 500 couples in 500 different countries, it appears from this study that the average duration of a sexual intercourse is about 5 min 42 seconds from penetration to ejaculation you see.
This figure is relatively modest and is far from the technical performance of pornography
And what is the ideal duration of sexual intercourse for a woman
A study made by a Canadian doctor in 2008 showed that for the majority of women if the duration of sexual intercourse from penetration to ejaculation is less than 3 min the intercourse is disappointing,
If a man can hold it for 3 to 7 minutes, intercourse is considered acceptable.
And if the man can hold off ejaculating for 7 to 10-12 minutes, intercourse is ideal.
More than 10 to 12 minutes is too long.
I remind you again that every woman is different and maybe your partner appreciates a shorter or longer duration of intercourse, that's why it's best to talk with her.
In the same way, fantasy, variety are very important in the success of a sexuality.
And sometimes in a couple a sexual intercourse will be relatively short because it is more playful and tonic and other times the duration of the sexual intercourse will be more important because it will be more sensual and cuddlier.
There are two very interesting pieces of information to be drawn from this study
First of all, as I was saying, we are far from the technical performance of pornography, but here as elsewhere, we should not take porn as a model
I often say that porn actors are bad sexual partners, they are soulless technicians, I compare them to rally drivers, guys who are capable of taking a bend at 120 km per hour on a country road, except that no woman wants to get into a rally driver's car and be pushed around and raped.
A woman wants to get into the car of a man who drives well, who manages his vehicle and next to whom she can settle down with confidence and let herself go.
It's exactly the same thing with sexuality.
Secondly, the phrase "the longer the better" is false, for many women a sexual intercourse lasting more than 10 to 12 minutes from penetration to ejaculation is too long, either she gets bored, or the intercourse starts to become unpleasant or even painful, because the back-and-forth movement of the penis inside the vagina becomes irritating and sometimes even painful.
A woman will be much more attracted to a sensual, invested, and attentive man who penetrates her for 7 to 10 minutes than to another guy who can penetrate her for 20 or 30 minutes and who puts all his energy into it, especially as the 10-minute duration is quite accessible to any man. It's like swimming, driving, or cycling, a new behaviour to be acquired and automated.
And it's not with a drug that you get there, it's with training.
Because at the base nature programmed us to ejaculate in 2 or 3 minutes like all the mammals if you want to make love longer you must learn to control this instinct
To do this you must first be completely concentrated on what you are doing and detach yourself from all your parasitic thoughts
If you are thinking about the duration of sex and wondering how long you will make love or whether your partner will be frustrated or disappointed, you are generating stress which makes you ejaculate more quickly
You should rather try to be more relaxed and calmer and move slower
I will soon make a complete video of the techniques and exercises that allow a man to last longer and ejaculate less quickly in the meantime, I say to you to the next and thank you for the reading.
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