We are in a world where people fall in love and starts a relationship right off without asking some question or setting some boundaries because they believe they would get to know their partner more and more as they embark on the journey of love.
After a discussion with a lady who claimed her man was cheating on her, I asked her what he did and the reply she gave got me thinking. What really is CHEATING in a relationship?
To a husband, wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend. What is it that they consider cheating? Before I go fully into detail, I would like to share some other people's points of view so you can understand more. I asked this question on my WhatsApp status and a lot of people had a lot to share.
From Amoke Moyin
Well, it is true some ladies consider these as cheating because they only want their partner to focus only on them and nothing more.
That's why you will see some ladies/guys that won't allow their partner to be that close with their friends once they start dating
From what this lady said, I under her point so well. The fact is when you start dating a very jealous partner, they will see even the normal thing as cheating. Though to you, it might be normal but you're already cheating without you knowing. Having a hyper-Jealous partner will create more rules and boundaries in a relationship.
From Oyindamola
No, he or she will surely know, except if such a person has a dead conscience but I believe no one has it we just pretend as if we do. If you r cheating on your partner no matter how little you think it is cheating is cheating and one thing inside of you will tell you what you're doing it's not right except you wanna ignore that fact.
There is a universal truth which means What is wrong in the east side of the world is also wrong in the north side of the world but what might be wrong to you might be right to others. It all depends on upbringing and when you do things that seem normal to you and are wrong to your partner, what is that?.
From Annish
Yes Boss it's possible. It depends on the circle caliber of people you walk with. If your friends are looking innocent when u are cheating they might not notice.
I can take u as an example fash. with a look of things when people look at you, u look innocent, and to be frank u are innocent. When someone like me walks with you having u as my friend and my babe know you as my friend I have some other guys who are also like you, and my babe would also believe I'm innocent like u guys by giving her caring and good attitude but deep down I'm a cheater but because of u guys she will never ever notice that side of me. I don't know if u understand me, boss
All I can say is hmm.
But the two replies I got next are thrilling because it feels like they sort of see things from my perspective.
From Dahlin
It all depends on ur perspective of cheating. Cheating is subjective, so actions u classify as cheating might not be cheating on ur partner.
Some peeps classify flirting (with no intentions aside from that) as cheating while others don't
From Serifat
Cheating is not about having extramarital sex or dating someone aside from your boyfriend or girlfriend but once we start getting excited over someone especially online like always looking forward to their chat, chatting for long period, and hiding this away from one’s spouse. This can be considered cheating without being known to the person
Can you cheat on your partner without knowing you're cheating?
Cheating itself can mean a lot of things but currently, the universal truth is that when a person says their partner cheated on them, the first thing that comes to mind is that the person has sex with another person. So I want to ask. Does cheating only mean having sex with another person aside from your partner?
When you hear the word "He cheated on me" or "She cheated on me" The first thing that comes to your mind is that they had an affair with another person but if you go against the rule of the relationship isn't that cheating?.
The more a person continues on their journey of love with their partner, they get to know many things about each other which will help them chop out some character they possess to make the other party happy.
In a relationship, if you don't satisfy your partner emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually, and many more but you do that to another person, or you're getting it from another person, it is considered cheating. That's why it is said that one might be cheating on their partner without them knowing they are cheating but the fact is that at a point they would feel it, they would know at a point that they are cheating.
Thanks for having me. I remain my humble self @Fashtioluwa . Have a great new year. See you all again.