I stopped fighting the system when I discovered one can not win by using force. There are lots of things in the world we hope that whining and complaining will change, sadly, it won't. No one will bend to your will just because you are in tears. Everyone is selfish, if it's not to our benefit, you can cry all you want, sorry, we can't do your bidding.
Anyone can be made to do anything we want if we use the right approach. It boils down to getting out of ourselves and putting ourselves in the skin of the other human. Find the missing link, offer solutions, then, watch them do what you want without resistance.
In the case of Love
There are always two sides to everything. Light or Darkness. Day or Night. Yin or Yang. Head or Tail. It applies to everything including love. Love or be loved. You choose the part you want to play and do so with all amount of attention to detail.
Any part you choose is okay, as long as you understand that you will need to put in efforts to gain anything.
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Making someone love you and stay faithful to you requires cleverness and creativity on your part. The power of love is not a physical thing, you are getting it wrong. It's a psychological one. You have to learn to work on the mind of your lover. Make him or she create fantasies, through your actions. Give them hopes and despair, alternate your moves with pleasure and pain, making them want you more.
Ninon De L'Enclon had said, "Much more genius is needed to make love than to command enemies" You are getting it all wrong, watch the movies that feed you with imaginations and fantasies closely, that guy or girl who is always making his partner love him or her no matter the circumstances worked on the psychological needs of that person.
I must warn you, once you learn how to make someone fall in love with you, it becomes intoxicating. This kind of power is what gives Casanova confidence around anyone they are trying to seduce. They have studied the psychology of making someone fall in love. They learn to create love instead of lust
When someone falls in love with you, it is easy for them to surrender to your charms. If they are lusting, they are easily disconnected from the magic.
The most beautiful thing is that anyone can master the art of creating love. You do not need to be beautiful, handsome, or have the right body forms. I repeat, this isn't a physical thing but a psychological one. It is your perspective that matters. The way you look at the world.
The idea that love happens, is foolish, love doesn't happen. It's not something you leave to chance, no. You plan, strategize, and lay siege as it is done with wars. Whenever you think things will just fall into place in love, slap yourself, you are getting lazy..lol.
You are not taking the art of love seriously whenever you leave things to chance. It is the effort we expend in the favor of the other person that brings love. When we show how much we care.