My neighbor is making me listen to adoption procedures on his radio. I am lying here listening attentively to an insightful session. The lady taking the session is doing a great job explaining the terms and conditions.
My neighbor is angry over most of the process. I am silently laughing at him. Of course, he doesn't know I am listening in. My door is closed, my shoes are nowhere to be found.
Well, now that I understand how adoption works, I'll make proper decisions when I am ready.
I learned that in my country, one is only allowed to adopt a child from the age of 0-17 years. An 18-year-old child is considered an adult and isn't up for adoption
I also found out that if you find a child abandoned and you want to adopt the child, you do not carry the child home. You have to first report to the police, and they will give you the necessary documents to prove that you didn't steal the child. That way, people who raise suspicion and report to the authorizes will be proven wrong because you have the proper documentation in your possession. Now, having the child in your home doesn't mean he or she belongs to you. This is considered an act of compassion and service. You need to go to court and get other papers that will allow you to adopt the child and call him or her yours.
Again, they discussed adopting a child whose parents or guidance are still alive. The lady said, the court and the authorizes will be part of this as usual, but, you will need the consent of the parents or guidance. This means a letter of consent will be issued.
This was the part that made my neighbor angry. I heard murmur over unjust acts(he claimed taking someone's child is not fair or good). He failed to understand that circumstances warrant certain actions. I have a feeling his reasons are mostly because he has direct contact with Midwives and pregnant women. He is always called upon to come over and aid traditional difficult deliveries in my locality.
So, I think, he is angry as a result of the things he experienced in the course of his work. He might have seen mothers who give birth and offer their children up for adoption or abandon them. This may be one of the things that make him boil in anger. It could be he is offended by such acts. I don't blame him though.
However, there are different reasons people look for children to adopt. Most women are afraid of getting pregnant or going through the process of carrying a baby, and finally putting it to bed. Others may not be able to conceive as a result of medical complications(either from her or her husband). Genotype and genes play a role in this decision too. This applies to couples who are AS, and SS. The possibility of giving birth to a medically impaired child or sickler might make them want to adopt instead of losing the love of their lives.
I don't think adoption is bad the way neighbor does. Once you understand what you and your partner want, you can work out a way that everyone gets to be happy. If adoption is the right choice, then, go ahead, and make it. Society should not detect your happiness for you. They won't be there to fill in the gaps, no. You are you, what makes you happy is what you are supposed to do.