A sudden urge of sexual desire. Feelings of uneasiness-- wanting to touch and be touched. This is a common response of our human nature.
Entering dating app. As you swipe left and right, you pass through profiles and make quick judgments about them. With every few swipes, a few folks will capture your attention, and you'll hope their profiles contain information that will make them fascinating.
As a pretty decent-looking girl, you accumulate plenty of matches after leaving your dating for an hour. Again, you scan the accounts of these men and women who wanted to "get to know" you.
Hi!
Hello~
And so the casual, mindless small conversation starts. Talking to multiple people at once will increase your chances of winning. In this case, we share only a certain quantity of information. As this person doesn't truly "catch" your vibe and wants something different from what you were seeking, you gradually lose interest.
Rinse and repeat. Tired and bored. You've already exerted too much effort and energy but the want for flesh wasn't satisfied.
Let's try something different instead.
28 [M4F] DTF Tonight.
NSFW 18+
Me: 30. 5'11. Around Manila & QC. Average body to dad bod. Easy on the eyes. Tattooed fair skin. Fully vaxxed. Latest HIV test March 15, 2023. Very hygienic. Can travel. Can't host but willing to shoulder hotel expenses. Smells good. Into vanilla to rough sex. Giver and will respect your boundaries. 6"D.
You: Clean. Very hygienic and smells good. No STDs. Around my area. Kind and sensible.
DM me your intro. Let's exchange pics.
You can find what you're looking for in this subreddit from ONS, FUBU, FWB, SFW, NSFW to Tropa premium. Quick fixes, love, or a stallion. Name it. You'll probably see different kinds of people also looking for different things.
Just like our 28 Male above. Kinda like a job application, no? However, this is still a two-way exchange. He knows what he wants and you know what you want.
The process is quite simple.
Hanap. Usap. Deal.
(Search. Chat. Deal)
Message an intro. With a vibe check and mutual attraction, give it a date and time. You're set. And just like that, you found your one-night stand.
Pass or go?
Passing is nothing personal. We recognize that we are not everyone's type in this situation. Several new posts are made every minute. Finding a companion to "go" with you is not that challenging... Unless you're a guy, that is. (This will be a different topic for another day.)
This is how internet hookup searches have generally gone, especially on the phr4r subreddit. Getting straight to business. Boundaries are established. Everyone is aware of how things are, but there are still problems, like unintentionally falling in love with your FWB. yikes.
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For me personally, this method of finding has been simpler because I use flirtation and sex as coping mechanisms. I've met with several guys and girls through this method. Fortunately, I haven't been Jeffrey Dahmered so far.
I consider myself fortunate because, in addition to the ONS, I was able to find people who are regarded as Tropa Premium—someone with whom I can have sex and who is like a close friend. But I prefer to refer to them as Special Friends.
When the body needs the touch of another, they will be there as well. They are people with whom you can share your joys and sorrows like a good friend. Sex would just be something you talk about casually and have fun with. No romantic feelings attached.
Because of our nation's deeply ingrained religious convictions, the Philippines, which is deficient in sex education compared to other nations, considers anything and everything related to sex to be sinful.
High birth rates, particularly among people living in poverty. Unintentional young mothers and fathers. Bullying and prejudice against those who express their genders differently.
How do we encourage people especially the youth to learn the skills they need for good sexual health? How do they attain the knowledge to make decisions about sex and be a good ally to those who are marginalized?
I'm curious about how far our nation has come in accepting sex and homosexuality as a bisexual who engages in sexual activity. I somehow learned how receptive people are to it. After observing the number of users who regularly search and post on that subreddit.
It's fascinating that most people actively searching are in the 20s. In Reddit, you'd be surprised, most people are more open to sex following proper safety.
Check this website out for free HIV testing. https://loveyourself.ph/set-appointments/
Screenshot from loveyourself website.
In ways, this has been around for a while but it's still in its early stages. The hook-up culture is incredibly exciting until it's not. You get to meet a lot of new people, which is fun. Some great ones and after the great ones you seem to notice that everyone else falls short.
Given our country's religious beliefs, it is difficult to imagine that our hookup culture will have advanced beyond where it is today. I only hope that it turns toward raising awareness. Sexual activity in general, its benefits and drawbacks.
For most of us, this is all brand-new. Exciting for those who are taking part. Nevertheless, as useful as this is to folks like myself. People would continue to benefit from the anonymity that this hookup channel offers. The prevalence of cheaters, catfishing, and scammers continues, but we'll talk about that another time.
Kalat responsibly~
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