In any healthy relationship with maximum commitment, anything done in secret is cheating. This isn't about making surprises that will trigger your partner's happiness.
I'm talking about what you would never want your partner to know you're doing. Things you know that will be detrimental to your partner's heart and hurt their feelings and emotions once they're revealed will be revealed. Most people just have this mindset that sex is the only wrong deed that can be done with someone outside of one's relationship; this is a total fallacy.
Today, I'll be enlightening us on other things that are done wrongly in our relationships and can also be regarded as cheating aside from sex. If you ask someone out or give someone your phone number and you don't want your partner to know, you're cheating. If you secretly visit your ex behind the bar, whether alone or with friends, you've cheated.
If you delete any phone texts or social media messages so that your partner does not get to see them, you're cheating.
Having deep phone calls with someone else about everything you think and feel without your partner's knowledge and permission is bad.
Maintaining a secret Tinder profile where you pretend to be single on social media
sending flirty messages to someone you follow on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.
Darling, you're cheating already.
You're emotionally cheating on your partner when you share intimate details and everyday closeness with someone outside of your relationship. To emotionally cheat is to tell yourself lies like
"We haven't even kissed; we've never even hugged each other for ten minutes, so nothing happened that I should feel ashamed of."
or stuff like
"We're just friends!"
Dear, you're still cheating.
keeping your relationship with another person secret from your partner because you're worried what your partner will think.
Sweetheart, you're still cheating!
Making out with someone at the club
Having a hot romance with someone when you're out of town
Dancing sexily with someone
Cheating!
Yes! They're all cheating, and cheating does not only mean sex.
Most times, we call cheating a mistake, but for me, it's a choice we make. Some even claim to stop when they're married. Funny! Who says so? Relationships are like mirrors; they're the reflection of what your marriage will look like. If you can't be committed in a relationship that is full of fun with less responsibility, how will you manage or adapt in a marriage where the ideal is extraordinary and filled with greater responsibilities?
Secrets and lies kill relationships, and no matter how careful you are, you will get caught. Most people cheat because they're paying attention to what they're missing rather than what they have.
Fine! I agree that temptation is powerful and nobody is immune to it; in fact, it is a normal human function to be attracted to other people. As a lady, if other guys apart from your partner are not showing interest in you, something is definitely wrong with you, and vice versa. But you have to gather the guts to discipline yourself to continually refocus and redirect all of yourself to your partner.
Thank you for reading to the end.