Most people tend to mistake lust for love and there is an absolute difference between both. Sometimes, it is hard to tell which is it because the feeling of both can be similar or intertwined. Lust and love are exciting and blissful, and it becomes difficult to differentiate which it is. It is possible to experience feelings of lust when you are meeting a person for the first time.
What is lust?
Lust is a feeling that creates changes in our brain chemistry. Hormones such as testosterone, pheromones, and androgens all have a role in how lust is felt. The feeling of lust is only sexual in nature; it’s like putting attraction on steroids. It is an overwhelming desire or craving for sexual intimacy with a person.
The difference between love and lust is that love is rooted in spiritual, emotional, and mental intimacy, while lust is rooted in physical and sexual intimacy. Love is the desire for your partner compassionately and affectionately. Lust, on the other hand is the desire of your partner sexually. Lust can make one blind such that he/she cannot recognize their reality.
Here are 5 signs that you are in lust
Your conversations with this person is always sensual: You cannot hold deep, emotional, and vulnerable conversations with this person. The only time you get to converse with this person either on phone or physically is always sensual and you end up talking about your bodies. This person is not the first you can call on to speak to when you are emotionally down because you are not assured emotional support with this person. With this person you can't be honest, you are afraid to be yourself, and you can't exhibit who you are. Your gut tells you that if you present yourself entirely as yourself, this individual would dislike you. So your conversations with this person are only about what brought you together.
Your feelings are only sexual and you don’t desire a deeper connection with the person: When you think of the person, the first thing that comes to your mind is their bodies or your previous sexual escapades. You don’t long for a deeper or stable connection with this person. All you have is a strong urge for constant intercourse and you don't always take time to connect in other ways. You don’t trust this person enough to be emotionally vulnerable with him/her. You don’t look forward to forming a permanent or secure relationship with this person. You don’t desire commitment, communication, and stability with this person.
You care so much about your physical appearance when you are with the person: When you are in lust, you are very concerned about your physical appearance, and upholding a standard look all the time. You will dress up every time you are to see them since your physical attraction is so strong. This is going to be the most important thing to you in the relationship. You will always feel the urge to impress and attract them, you're preoccupied with appearing your best for them. You cannot be yourself around this person 24/7. This is different in love, because as much as you would like to impress them, your priority all the time when you appear before the person is not always your physical appearance, because you know they care about the real you, regardless of what you are wearing.
You lack interest in the person’s life: You are only curious about the physical characteristics and sexual desires of the person you are interested in. Anything else does not pique your curiosity. You don't care to chat with this individual about a variety of subjects to get to know them or see their perspective to things. When you're experiencing lusty sensations, you are more self-centred since your sexual happiness is the most important thing to you. You are uninterested in getting to know the individual from the inside out. You know nothing about their childhood experience, family background and customs. That's because you don't spend enough time together to get to know each other.
You don’t fantasize about a future with this person, you only fantasize about sexual intimacy: This person is someone you have little or no interest in building a future with. This is because your values and belief systems don’t align. The only life you desire with this person is sexual intimacy. When you think of that individual, you start smiling, flushing, becoming excited, and feeling turned on. You may not have much in common, but when you're touching, it doesn't matter. That's certainly not love at play.
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