我不得不承认，自己真的不太会和小孩子相处，每次陪玩几乎都以不欢而散收场。直到试着去问 AI，才忽然看清问题所在。
AI 告诉我，7 岁男孩正处于具体运算阶段，这个词我完全不懂，但描述的特点却句句戳中现实：精力旺盛到一刻不停，崇拜英雄、看重胜负，动手欲极强，还特别希望被当成 “小大人” 认可。
对照一看，全是我踩过的坑。侄儿精力旺盛，我却只想安静待着；他胜负欲强，可大多时候都是我赢；他对我的笔记本电脑充满好奇，乱按、插拔、反复开关机，我只觉得烦躁；他渴望被认同，我却一天里反驳他无数次。
难怪一天下来鸡飞狗跳，他闹脾气、我心累，最后两败俱伤。
我一直以为是孩子太调皮、太难哄，现在才明白，不是我不会陪玩，是我一直用大人的逻辑，去理解一个孩子的世界。他的吵闹、倔强、好奇和不服输，都只是这个年纪最正常的样子。
I have to admit, I'm really not good with children. Almost every time I tried to play with my nephew, it ended badly. It wasn't until I asked AI for help that I suddenly saw the real issue.
The AI told me that a 7-year-old boy is in the "Concrete Operational Stage." I didn't fully grasp the term, but its description perfectly hit home: boundless energy, hero worship, a strong desire to win, a keen interest in hands-on activities, and a deep longing to be recognized as a "little adult."
Looking back, I realized I'd made every mistake. My nephew was full of energy, but I just wanted peace and quiet. He was competitive, but I usually won. He was incredibly curious about my laptop—pressing keys, plugging and unplugging, repeatedly turning it on and off—and I just got annoyed. He craved affirmation, yet I contradicted him countless times a day.
No wonder our days were a chaotic mess. He'd throw tantrums, I'd feel exhausted, and we both ended up frustrated.
I used to think he was just a naughty, hard-to-handle kid. Now I understand: it wasn't that I couldn't play with him; it was that I was constantly trying to understand his world through adult logic. His noise, his stubbornness, his curiosity, and his refusal to give up are all just perfectly normal for his age.