Parenting is a lifetime journey and experience that if you are not ready and prepared for it, you will not succeed or enjoy it. To be a parents is far more than just given birth to children and that's all. No, aside from giving birth to children, taking care and training those children you brought to this world is a lot of work and efforts. What about Feeding and clothing those children, paying for their schools fees and hospital bills when they got sick is also another thing you need to know about being a parent.
Becoming a father or mother figure, a role model to your children is also another thing you need to know as you want to become a parent. Your children will learn about life, character and behavior, respect and love and everything that concerns life entire life existence from you as a father or mother, being their parents. To become a parent isn't something one need to be taken for granted or for a joke.
I was working in the laboratory when a young lady of 18 years, a lady that just enter her SS3 this term came into the laboratory and asked me to run pregnancy test on her. She told me she has missed her period for more than a month now and she came to laboratory to confirmed if it is pregnancy or infection that stop her menstruation. I collected her blood sample and ran a blood pregnant test on her and the result came out positive.
When I saw the result shows positive, a lot of things started running through my mind, things like is this little lady ready for marriage now at her age, is the man who got her pregnant will accept the pregnancy and take responsibility for it?. Would the girl's parents accepted the little girl been pregnant at this her condition or age? So many questions came to my mind and I couldn't get enough of it.
I called the lady in and sat her down and explained the pregnancy test result to her. From the moment she heard the pregnancy test result shows positive her mood changed. I could see fears and confusion in her eyes. She sat down quite for some minutes without saying a word out of her mouth. I asked her if she knows the man responsible and she said yes she knows, is her boyfriend. But she doesn't know how to talk to him or how to do about the pregnancy at a moment. I asked where is the man staying and did she knows the man's family very well. Her response broke my heart deeply. She said the man just got admission into college last month, September and she is currently in her final year in senior secondary school about to write her weac and Neco exams next year. I looked at her in the eyes and was confused on what to tell her at that moment as a medical personnel.
I asked if she's ready and prepared for marriage since she is pregnant she said "NO SIR". I told her being pregnant is one thing and getting marry is another different thing completely and it will be tough and difficult for someone who isn't ready and prepared for marriage to enter marriage unprepared because of pregnancy. I just adviced her as a medical personnel, she should go and meet the man and experience everything to him and hear whatever he will tell her. Whatever they both decided to do is fine .
She collected the result and left the hospital. I don't know how or what she and her man that got her pregnant later decided to do. Marriage isn't something one should rush into unprepared. One needs to take his time and prepare his or her mind, emotional, psychological, mentally and physically ready for marriage before she or him can marry.