Hello, Hive! :)
How is everyone doing? I just officially started my 2nd semester in college and I can already feel how challenging this semester will be. During my free time, I always go to TikTok to de-stress. I have been seeing a lot of trends on TikTok but the seven friends theory made me look back and think about doing it. But since I am shy to post something on TikTok, I figured to write about it here.
The seven friends theory is a trend on TikTok that has been going on for years. According to this theory, everyone has these 7 friends that serve different roles and purposes in one's life. Get to know more about this here.
I have made many friendships over the years. Some of those friendships last several months or years, and hopefully, some will last a lifetime. In this blog, I would like to express appreciation for the friendships I made through the years.
The 7 Friends Theory
A friend you’ve known since childhood.
I assume we all have a friend we have known since our early years. This friend may be the closest one to our hearts as we've seen them grow and we grew up with them. As for me, I have one and I consider her as my best friend.
She's Fatima. She's also my cousin and we eventually grew up together. We were inseparable back in the day. We went to the same class in elementary. Most of my memories in childhood were with her so it speaks a lot about our closeness. However, we went to different schools in high school but that did not make us lose our bond. We constantly communicate and catch up with each other.
Now that we're both in college and become busy with our own lives, we rarely see each other but it is never a problem for the both of us. At the end of the day, I know I will always have a friend in her and I'm forever grateful for that.
A friend that can always make you laugh.
We always have that friend who can always make us laugh in every situation— most especially during our sad days. Mine just cracks a joke that will immediately make me laugh both of how funny and corny it is.
Timothew, or whom I call 'Timo' is a friend I met when we were in grade 12. Our friendship started naturally as we were classmates and we got closer and eventually became friends because of schoolwork as we bonded over complaining about school. Lol. He is one of my closest friends in senior high and he has helped me a lot in academics as he is also very intelligent.
The only downside about him is that he cracks very corny and unfunny jokes that make me laugh because of how unfunny it is. (I hope you understand what I mean.😭) But he is a very good friend who lightens up the mood and spending time with him would never make you feel lonely at all.
A friend you can talk to like no time has passed.
There will always be people who may be away from us in distance but never in heart. We'll be very lucky to have these people. I'm part of those lucky ones who have met a friend like this.
She's Claire, a friend I had since we were still in elementary. We went to the same high school but we parted ways when I transferred during senior high.
Our friendship stayed the same throughout the years and I'm very glad we still get to talk to each other like no time has passed. Spending time with her will always feel comfortable. She is always a friend I know I can count on even though we never regularly talk and see each other.
A friend you can tell anything to.
I believe that we all have different friends for different versions of us. We have friends at school, the friends we have since childhood, our church friends, and even the friends we met online. Within these friends, there are things that we tell them that we don't to our other friends and vice versa. It's very hard to find someone you trust with all your heart that you get to tell everything without the fear of judgment. But I am grateful I already met mine.
I met Rougine last year at school. We were classmates for a year already but it was the first time we met and talked to each other. I do not exactly remember how our friendship started but we bonded a lot over Kpop which we both enjoy. We also both liked EXO and had Chanyeol as our bias. She was the one who helped me collect albums and photocards when I was still starting.
Over time, we built a friendship deeper than the connection we built because of Kpop. She became one of my closest friends. I think our interests brought us so close to each other that I just realized I don't have a hard time expressing myself when I talk to her. I was never afraid of judgment when it came to her because I knew she would always understand. She is very supportive of me and always makes me feel heard. I do actually consider her as my platonic soulmate. :) Love this girl a lot.
A friend that’s like a sibling.
As I have written in my past blogs, I am the eldest among my five siblings. I have always craved that love and care from an older sibling. Thankfully, I have a friend who loves and cares for me just like how I wished for.
Hazen and I became friends in 2022 but got close just last year. Like siblings, we bicker a lot, get very honest with each other, but also care for each other a lot. I am four days older than her but I always feel like she's my 'ate' because of how she looks after me and takes care of me. She is also more mature and responsible than I am so even though she's the youngest among her siblings and I am the oldest among mine, I genuinely think we switch roles when we're together.
With her personality, she also keeps me very grounded and tells me things I need to know. She does not tolerate my irresponsible acts and guides me just like how an 'ate' does. Most people misunderstand her attitude but she is one of the best people I know.
A friend you can’t imagine not being in your life.
You can just think of someone and say "Ah, I can't imagine not having him/her." It's like you would miss out a lot when you think of not having this certain person and I have one in mind.
Aira is one of my close friends in Grade 12. She is someone with a very strong personality, fun, and very trustworthy. She was also one of my anchors when I was having a very hard time in the past. She may not say the most comforting words but she always makes me feel that I am not alone in whatever I am facing.
With everything she has, one of the things I admire is her courage. Amidst all the things she encountered, she is still standing strong and it makes me very proud of her. One of the strongest women I know. That is why I am always rooting for her and her success.
A friend who knows all your (relationship) drama.
This friend knows about all the relationship drama or all the gossip in your life. However, I would like to change this part a little bit since I never had relationship dramas or boy problems but many " life dramas" and "life problems".
Hazel and I just got closer recently but we were already friends a year ago. We also go to the same school, same class, and same schedule. We are inseparable. And since we got close, she is the one I get to tell things— from my biggest chika to the smallest fun encounter in my daily life. She is also the first person I get to tell my rants and complaints about life since we spent time together a lot.
I don't tell her this but she is one of the reasons why college is a bit bearable. Her presence and her support always uplift me and keep me going even on the days I feel drained. I'm always grateful for having her by my side. And of course, for always listening to my nonstop deluluness of my K-pop boys.
It's really hard to meet good friends in this world. But it's even harder to keep them in our lives. I agree with this statement as I also had friendships I let go of because I realized those friendships weren't for me. I had friends who I stopped talking to because being with them made me feel bad about myself. I went through that phase of guilt when I started slowly detaching myself from the friendship. However, I was blessed enough to meet people who made me feel loved and valued. It made me realize how nice it is to surround ourselves with people who love and value us because it makes us also love ourselves more.
With this, I want to quote my K-pop bias, Mark Lee, in his words I will never forget.
”Surround yourself with good people because you are a good person too.”
Thank you for reading! Always remember to spread kindness and love.♡