There are certain questions that a pastor should not be asking young ladies; some of which are:
- Do you have a boyfriend?
- Have you had sex before?
- Has anyone told you how beautiful you are?
Ladies who confessed to having sex with their pastor often admitted to questions like the aforementioned being the teasers indulged to either play their mind or awaken their curiosity.
As a pastor, your responsibility is to minister the Gospel to the people. Making personal enquiries into their life especially of this nature should be avoided.
Also, if a married lady is having conception difficulties, don't ask her how often she have sex with her husband. You are not a medical doctor or fertility expert.
The world is a weird place now. Curiosity peers through every available means and meanings attributed to everything.
As a minister, there are boundaries to the enquiries we can make into people's lives. Keep the conversation within the space of Scripture.
I have seen young ladies on this blue app accuse pastors of lust simply because of the way he roved his eyes on them.
Also, to young ladies, when you are before your pastor or any minister, do not lower your guard for him on trust. If the conversation veers off the radars of Scripture to TLC, emotional or affection, interrupt it and walk away.
Lastly, married women, if you are having difficulties with conception and a so-called pastor tells you that his semen is holy and anointed to break the siege of delayed conception or barrenness, report him to your husband and get him arrested for attempting rape on you.
Thanks. See you shortly.