I've been scrolling on social media these days and I Suddenly feel like I'm doing everything wrong, even how to walk. On every corner of the Internet there's someone talking on the best way to walk, talk and drink water. Advice is everywhere and everyone now has turn their failure into a vital life lesson that they have to share.
I saw a video that was different from the rest of the advice giving fanatics, he said the best advice is "don't listen to advice". He said that advice is more for the advice giver than the listener, and I couldn't agree more. The advisor don't really know what you are going through, they only know what works, what has work or what could have work for them. So that your friend that tells you not to trust anyone is not spilling groundbreaking facts, they are still hurt from being betrayed. The advice usually exposes the advice giver's experience and how they view the world.
What confuses me is how contradictory advice can be; They say "be grateful for what you have" but they also say "dream big", they say "don't give up" but they also say "let go of things that aren't meant for you", they say you "think you have time" but they also say "it's never too late to start", they say "good things take time" but they also say "don't leave anything for later", they say "if you really love them you'll fight for them" but they also say "if you really love them you'll let them go", they say "do what you love" but they also say the "rent is due".
We have all heard this a thousand times, and sometimes we struggle to choose the one to follow because advice doesn't come with context and context mean a lot. What worked for your mother in the 90s might not work for you in 2025, what made sense for your brother in his twenties, might harm you in yours. Times are different, so advice isn't timeless.
Now what I mean by not listening to advice is not shutting your ears and ignoring everything anyone says but it's learning to listen without obeying, you can listen to advice but you don't necessarily have to follow it, you can run by ur own filter, ask your self; will this be of help in my current situation, does this align with my values. If it doesn't it okay not to follow through. Sometimes you don't need anyone to hand you the script to life because it won't fit your own life. Sometimes you just have to figure it on your own, make your own mistakes and learn from it because you will learn more from your mistakes than listen to the "5 rules for success" from someone else.
You are here to experiment, to make mistakes and figure out what works for you and not to follow a script made by someone else. At the end of the day, advice is just the advisor perspective on life, don't necessarily have to take it.
It's still Abeegail ✨😉
Thanks for reading 😊