I'm truly sorry your even put in that situation. Apparently he has something else going on which he doesn't want you to be a part of , I've been there before so I know your pain. When this happened to me I left and never looked back, he chose a high school girl over his wife and 3 kids , After the fact we've been divorced for 30 years , he's not called any of the kids , no gifts no nothing. But I found it was easier this way, My advice find your happy place beyond him, Live your life for you and only you. If u ever wanna talk you can email me or join my discord server. My screen name on discord is prissy.
email: prissyme67@aol.com
discord link: https://discord.gg/jBT4pQ5q7u