Can’t blame parents

Parents are known as the divine gift to children. It says that God can’t reach every child directly, and that’s why God gives us parents to take care of children. I know there can be controversy on that statement, but I think there should be no controversy on the meaning or intention of the statement, which is the love and care of parents. The love and care children receive from parents is unconditional, and it can be considered divine love. Exceptions may exist, but exceptions can’t be an example, and so I am not mentioning exceptional cases.

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Almost every child can understand the love and care of their parents as long as things are right and nothing happens against their will. As children, it’s normal to make mistakes, and they need to learn from them. They do many wrong things, and parents try to correct them. As parents, it’s also their responsibility. While children grow up, they start to develop their own thoughts, and sometimes many times, their thoughts are not right and need to be corrected, which can be conflicting with parents’ thoughts. I agree that in most cases, parents are right, and children are on the wrong side. It happens mostly because children have a lack of experience of life, although it’s not necessary that children are wrong all the time.

Children need to understand their mistakes first if they want to correct them and do better in the future, and there are two ways to make them realize their mistakes. The one way is to have a friendly discussion with them and tell them why they are wrong. And another way is the harsh way. In that way, parents scold them and beat them to make them understand what their mistake is. It’s kind of a thing that may affect them mentally.

I always think that it’s good to go in a friendly way and have a face-to-face discussion with children to make them understand their mistakes. Unfortunately, most parents choose the harsh way to teach their children. Children don’t like the way, and they think their parents don’t love them exactly in those moments when they are scolded or beaten up. In that way, they can understand that they made mistakes, but the one thing that dissatisfies them is the way their parents choose for them to realize the mistakes. They wish their parents could choose the polite way for it rather than beating or scolding them. Most of us think about it in the same way, but why don’t parents understand it? Should we blame parents for choosing the way?

Sounds simple. Right? But you need to understand that we are humans, and most of us are destined to learn things the hard way. It’s because most children don’t appreciate kindness when parents try to make them understand their mistakes. They don’t take the thing seriously, and that means they are not accepting their mistakes, and with such a mindset, they become arrogant. I know there are some kids who are quite understanding, and it’s kind of an injustice, but think about most of the kids. I think it’s necessary to make them understand what their mistakes are and why they are wrong. Parents don’t want to take the risk and spoil their children. They choose the harsh way to educate them.

No parents (excluding the exception) become happy beating or scolding their children because it’s like they are hurting themselves. Even if they choose to do it for the better future of their children and live a good life. I am not a parent, and I am not a married person either. I just tried to understand it from the parents’ perspective and why they do so. I think we can’t blame parents for choosing the harsh way. There are reasons for choosing such a way.