Nice write up dear.
Well said
My opinion :
I think doing things normally as if you are alone can help at times.
Not waiting for the other person to do this or that, with the saying of is his/her responsibility.
Yes,we know everyone has a responsibility in a family.
But when couples come together, having each other back can ease each other burden.
Responsibility is a huge load, none is an easy task.
Sometimes try to put yourself in the person's position and help out, but don't overdo it and seriously this should be vise versa if not problems arises.