I get that couples should commit to their marital vows and equally prioritize protecting their marriages. But is putting one's life on the line also a part of it? Is sacrificing one's life on the altar of a marriage that values them so little worth it?
I've always been of the opinion that prioritizing oneself is not selfishness, it's survival, it's being responsible for your life, your happiness, your general health and well-being!
Just so you know;
Your life is the only thing you have, and it's worth more than anything else. So protecting it should be your top priority! It shouldn't be something to gamble with, just so you can please others or protect whatever relationship you're in. You're not the savior, so stop trying to be one! Prioritize yourself!
You may be wondering why I'm sounding this way. I can't hold it any longer, so I have to put it all out. Seriously, I do not understand anymore. When did empathy become a lost art in relationships? When did men's desires become the priority, and women's lives become disposable? Whatever happened to self-control? Questions begging for answers!
Yesterday, I stumbled on a tragic story - a woman lost her life while trying to protect her "so-called marriage." The said woman has been married for about five years now, with five children, and was just four days away from giving birth through CS, and her husband began demanding sex. Despite her pleas for time to heal, he threatened to bring in another woman, leaving her with a difficult choice.
Afraid he would carry out his threat, she finally succumbed to his demands, enduring severe physical and emotional trauma. Afterwards, she began bleeding and was rushed to the hospital, where she couldn't be saved. Before passing away, she revealed a history of abuse and a misguided attempt to protect her marriage to her elder sister.
After reading the story, I was torn between anger and sadness. What manner of wickedness and selfishness are these? The woman returned home after risking her life to bring another human being, his child into the world, and the only thing he could do was to treat her as a sexual object. What a despicable act. Gosh!
I believe she was his "better half" and must have claimed to love her. He must have also read out the marital vows on the altar. So what happened to all the promises he made her? Where's the love? The care? The compassion? The empathy? Even if he was struggling with his desires, couldn't he have shown restraint, knowing the wife was still recovering from childbirth? What level of insanity is this? Arrgh!
I am seething with anger while writing this because I do not understand why a woman, who almost gave her life to birth a child, would make such a self-destructive decision - prioritizing her marriage over her own life? What was she thinking? That enduring abuse was the key to keeping her marriage intact? What a crap!
There's nothing you can do to keep a man who doesn't want to be kept. Give him your all, and he'd still look elsewhere.
How could she not even see her own worth? Why couldn't she fight for her life? Why wait until the end to speak out? Apparently she was already living a life of quiet desperation, sacrificing her body and soul for a love and marriage that weren't worth it.
This heartbreaking incident is just to show the dark underbelly of some marriages.
Ladies, gentlemen, no marriage is worth dying for! Prioritizing your marriage over personal well-being would only lead to devastating consequences. This story is just one out of many.
My heart goes out to the family of the late woman. I can only imagine how shattered they must be at the news of her demise. And the children... I wonder how they'll take the news, how they'll feel when they find out what happened to their mother and who their father really is. It's such a pity!
Well, I have just one word for the man: Since he chose wickedness, may his life be filled with misery and pain! Of course, he should be under the police's net by now because the late wife's elder sister vowed that she'd bring her sister justice, and I love her for that. It's high time men like him are made to face the consequences of their actions.
Own Your Life!
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