In my life there are plenty of times where I felt exhausted and so below the belt that I started to compare my life with others. Whenever someone was telling me their story I would always try to compare it with myself. It's like I was not ready to hear others side of story and always was rushed to speak about mine.
Like for example if someone was describing about how life was hard for them and sharing me their personal stories I would always compare their story to mine and always tell them that they are not suffering at all, I would always say that I have suffered more than that person and he doesn't know what suffering is yet.
I regret all of these moments in my life because the thing I did was unintentional and I was not aware of what I was doing. I think no one in their right mind would say those things. Actually, I used to think making my problem look bigger can make them feel better but no it doesn't happen like that.
When I do these things it means that I am not valuing their journey and making them look like a fool. But to be honest I didn't know how it looked unless one day my daughter had a deep conversation with me. My daughter opened up with me she talked to me about the mistakes I make often.
I truly don't have the intention to look down on someone else or I never try to compete with others. It just happened naturally because people has done the same thing with me and I didn't have someone to correct me. But I am glad my daughter did let me know about it.
I have worked on it very well and now I always try to sympathize with people. Actually everyone's problem is big to themselves and other people can never see it in the right way. Only if someone thinks of themselves in your shoes after that they can realize what you have gone through, but only a few knows how to do it.
If someone does the same thing just like me, I would say you should guide that person and let them know it's a wrong step to take. Maybe that person is also doing it unintentionally and only a few would agree about their own mistakes.
I have rarely seen people admitting to their mistakes and I think it's necessary to know about what you did wrong and try to fix it gradually. It's not possible to change overnight as I could not do it in just one day, with some practice I have made my mindset like that. It's really necessary to have positive mindset.
Everyone should learn to respect others journey and only then you can get close to them. Otherwise you might end up in their black list. I have seen some stubborn people who would refuse to understand, like if you let them know about their mistake they will be like "How am I supposed to know what it feels like if I don't experience it?" Like these type of lines makes them look ignorant. I feel they do it purposely and they don't care at all about others perspective. So, it's better to stay away from people like this.
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