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Peer pressure is that force or drive we get from the people in our circle, usually people within our age bracket to do something not because it is right but because of the need for us to behave in uniform with them.
As an undergraduate, I was a no nonsense but easy going lady. I had these friends whom I moved and do things with on and off campus. After each day's lectures, all the four of us would return to my hostel, eat whatever is available, do our assignments together before the ones who came from home amongst us would return home in the evening.
I call that little team of just four people my little village. They were my go to person if I had any difficulty in any course at all. Amongst these my friends was a guy who said he was dating me, two other ladies and myself. This guy who called himself my boyfriend was our general course rep so he was usually in and out of the offices of some lecturers either for assignments submissions or for attendance updates.
On some of the occasions we(myself and our other friends) may follow him and then wait in the lobby of the lecturer's office. On one such occasion, I was summoned by the lecturer he had gone to submit an attendance to and I went into his office. On getting in, this agbaaya lecturer asked my friend (the guy) to wait outside while he talked to me.
I came out of his office crying like a baby being that I have had gist about him from our senior friends that he sleeps with anything in a skirt, I also heard that if one refuse him, such students would be having loads of carry overs from an unknown source and this may lead to an extra year.
After wailing for a few minutes while we walked away from the lecturer's office,, I let out the bombshell. I told my friends that this lecturer said he is interested in me. Then my guy friend said ah, what are you going to do? I think you should agree o so that his course would be easier for us to pass. The response to that question came from one of our female friends from the group she said you better agree to date him I, remember what sister Wemimo of BSF told us. All I could do was cry the more.
As if that was not enough Sade the other girl said babes it's not a big deal, after all, I am also dating Mr ……. That minute, I knew I had been moving with strangers. How can I be friends with someone who wants me to date a lecturer because of Mark, one who wants me to date someone old enough to be my father and one who can not protect me.
What I did was to meet a senior friend to help me. I followed this senior friend to the lecturer's office the following day and he introduced me to the lecturer as his younger sister. I guess the lecturer understood the message immediately because he never bothered me again. Then I put a stop to the friendship I had with those people I thought I knew by visiting the library after lectures from library to campus fellowships and from the fellowships, I returned to the hostel late in the evening.
