Honestly, one of the wrong assumptions I feel a lot of my classmates have about me is that I am shy or that I don’t have the courage to approach or talk to girls. One of my friends even told me just last week that he has never seen me talking to any girl, so he doesn't just think i am bold enough to talk to one which is actually far from the truth.
I’ve actually had a series of conversations with different girls over time, so it’s not like I lack social skills or confidence when it comes to interacting with the opposite gender. The real reason many of them might think I’m shy is because I don’t just randomly approach everyone or try to start conversations with people I don’t feel a genuine connection with. That doesn’t mean I’m shy; it just means I’m selective and careful about who I invest my time and energy into.
One thing about me is that I take time to observe and study people before I actually decide to get close to them. I pay attention to how they behave, how they treat others, and the kind of energy they bring into a conversation or environment. If I notice that a girl is rude, disrespectful, or has a negative attitude, I naturally tend to keep my distance. It’s not about being judgmental or cold; it’s more about protecting myself and choosing to focus on people who add value to my life rather than bring unnecessary stress or negativity. So, for me, the decision to approach someone isn’t impulsive—it’s thoughtful. I need to feel that there’s mutual respect or compatibility before I even consider engaging in a meaningful conversation or getting closer.
This approach sometimes comes off as me being distant or reserved, which might reinforce the misconception that I’m shy. But in reality, I’m someone who is very aware of social dynamics and who carefully decides where my attention goes. I value meaningful interactions over casual ones, and I prefer quality over quantity when it comes to relationships or friendships. It’s not that I’m afraid to talk to girls; it’s that I don’t want to waste my time or energy on interactions that are likely to be unproductive or uncomfortable. I believe in building connections that have potential, where there’s mutual understanding and respect.
So, while my classmates might see me as shy or hesitant, the truth is that I simply take a more deliberate approach to relationships and conversations. I observe, I analyze, and I choose carefully. For me, approaching someone isn’t about pushing myself into social situations I don’t feel comfortable with—it’s about waiting until there’s a good reason to make that connection. And when I do choose to approach someone, it’s because I’ve recognized something about them that resonates with me, and I feel confident that it’s worth the effort to engage.
Thanks for reading.