Hello Everyone!!! It is a pleasure for me to greet you all again. A hug for all the acquaintances and a greeting to the new members of this beautiful community, whom I hope to get to know and read.
I must admit that I missed being here, but sometimes life circumstances lead us to focus on other things; and that's what I want to talk about in this post, to give you some idea of the reason for my absence.
The thing was that my partner's older sister got sick, and I wanted to be there to support both of them and the rest of the family. It was one of those illnesses that is difficult to bear and overcome, not only for those who suffer from it, but also for everyone around them.
A disease that at times makes you hope that everything will be all right and then you end up emotionally devastated. That is why the title of this publication.
I know that many, like me, have grown up with the idea of a superior force, a God, a Guardian Angel that takes care of us and saves us in certain circumstances that seemed impossible to get rid of. For example, I have a friend who lives in Madrid-Spain, and a few years ago there was an attack in the subway of that city. As soon as I saw the news in the media and social networks I contacted her. Between anguish and relief she told me that she was on that subway minutes before the events, she was heading home when she received a call from her mother to get off a few stations earlier than usual to pick up something. She confessed her annoyance and anger with her mother for asking her to do so when she just wanted to get home, and reluctantly got off the subway. And this saved her life that day. So, what was once the worst thing that could happen to my friend (her mother asking her to pick something up before she got home), turned out to be the best thing that could have happened to her.
Cada vez que yo me quejo por algo, mi padre hace referencia a ese tipo de historias, y me dice que piense que “lo que pasó fue lo mejor” y he llegado a convencerme de que muchas veces es verdad.
Durante mas de seis meses, siendo testigo de alguien que luchó contra esa enfermedad, esa frase se repitió muchas veces en mi cabeza. Primero cuando sintió un fuerte dolor en la espalda y decían que su riñón estaba fallando, nos angustiamos porque decían que podía perderlo, nombraban diálisis y de más, pero solo estaba obstruido y lo solucionaron introduciendo un catéter…. Fue lo mejor dentro de todo lo malo que decían que podía haber pasado.
Luego, con un fuerte dolor abdominal, también parecía pasar lo mismo. Los médicos empezaron diciendo que se trataba de una amibiasis, pero luego dijeron que se encontraba el colon obstruido y debían operar para ver con que se encontraban y solucionarlo, no eran muy optimistas con el resultado. Sin embargo, resulto ser una apendicitis y supuestamente con la operación todo quedaba arreglado. Nuevamente sentimos un gran alivio, porque dentro de todo lo peor que habían nombrado, terminó siendo de las cosas menos graves.
Stories like that I've heard many, and I've also been lucky enough to be the protagonist of others. Things like a man who was on his way to work in his car and a tree falls on him at a traffic light, and yes, it destroys his car a little but he is unharmed, although very upset and insulting the whole world, but it turns out that if he had continued on his way, his fate would have been much worse.
Every time I complain about something, my father refers to those kinds of stories, and tells me to think that "what happened was for the best" and I have come to be convinced that it is often true.
For more than six months, witnessing someone who struggled with that disease, that phrase repeated itself many times in my head. First when she felt severe pain in her back and the doctors said her kidney was failing, we were anxious because they said she could lose it, they said dialysis and so on, but it was only obstructed and they fixed it by inserting a catheter..... It was the best thing in all the bad things they said could have happened.
Then, with severe abdominal pain, the same thing seemed to happen. The doctors started out saying it was amebiasis, but then said it was an obstructed colon and they had to operate to see what they could find and fix it, they were not very optimistic about the outcome. However, it turned out to be appendicitis and supposedly with the operation everything was fixed. Again we felt a great relief, because out of all the worst things they had mentioned, it turned out to be one of the least serious.
Sin embargo, a sus hermanas, a su familia y a mí, nos dejó un ejemplo de lucha y fortaleza imborrable. Y después de toda esta experiencia, agradezco y valoro aún más, cada día que despierto con fuerzas y salud.
En fin, intente iniciar este post con algo más optimista, porque bueno, hay casos de casos. Pero también quise compartir con ustedes uno de los principales motivos de mi ausencia y algunas de las cosas que me estuvieron dando vueltas en la cabeza con toda esa experiencia.
Gracias por leerme. Seguimos….
I would like to tell you that in the end, after a few months, the best thing that could have happened happened... And I think we all said at some point that yes, it was the best thing. That now she is in a better place, that she rested from so much suffering, that she would have continued to suffer and even if she had beaten the disease, she was not going to lead a normal life if she was still with us. But the truth, even though I said it myself, was only from the mouth out, because I cannot convince myself that the best thing for someone is death. The best thing will always be to be able to heal, for a miracle to happen if necessary and to be able to continue with their lives in the best way. That would be the best thing!!!.
However, to her sisters, her family and me, she left an indelible example of struggle and strength. And after all this experience, I appreciate and value even more, every day that I wake up with strength and health.
Anyway, I tried to start this post with something more optimistic, because well, there are cases of cases. But I also wanted to share with you one of the main reasons for my absence and some of the things that were going around in my head with all that experience.
Thanks for reading me. Continued....