Mmm, let me see, onee … wait what 1?
Okay that was me trying to count the number of weddings I have attended between last year and this year and it’s just one. I like weddings but there’s just some kind of stress that comes with it. What dress to wear, what shoes to wear and it’s even worse when the invitation comes with color codes. That means they are expecting you to meet those color expectations. I learnt in Nigeria, they even show you which material to sew, interesting.
I’ve always said I never want to have a wedding, just the court signing and then off to honeymoon but from what I’ve been told recently, wedding is not even yours to decide. Where I come from, a wedding is to glorify your parents. It’s more like you can’t really pay back all that your parents have done for you so the best thing to do is to just at least make them happy with your wedding, something like that.
The reason for not wanting a wedding became solid after my cousin’s wedding. We planned a small wedding. In fact, it was strictly by invite. She wanted a really intimate wedding but tell me why all those that were invited for the wedding came with plus ones and twos and even threes. There were security personnel and all at the entrance but the thing is, it would not be nice to tell someone nicely dressed and all to go back home. Thankfully, they planned a little above the number to make up for any extra number of people that would be present(as if they knew).
Now, tell me why after all these people brought uninvited plus ones and twos, they requested for double food. Not even the invited persons themselves but their plus ones and twos. Already, I didn’t want to serve anymore because I had been on so many errands and then from nowhere, someone goes like “Oh I ate fufu first, can I get jollof now”. I look at the person for about 30 seconds as if I’m about to possess her. Oh yeah I wanted to look scary enough and then just walk away.
This is something that makes me not want to have a wedding. I don’t want to invite someone and then he or she will come with another person whether I know the person or not. I mean if I wanted the person there, don’t you think I would have invited the person myself?
And yeah the food part too. I remember telling my mom that if I “charge”, I’ll just share Lipton in calabash at my wedding not because I’ll be a broke person but just because I don’t want to see anyone fighting over food or taking double package.
These are some of the inconsiderate things people do at weddings that put me off. Maybe in the end, I’ll have to be a bouncer at my own wedding. When I see someone coming with someone that I don’t know and wasn’t invited, “my friend, go home go home”.
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