You meet someone new and start to have this tingling feeling in your stomach, it's the butterflies fluttering and maybe you feel you're in love.
Well, no doubt love at first sight exists, simply because we are attracted to that person and have this instant connection with that person just immediately we set our eyes on them.
Many times, we all fall in love with a very cute baby, maybe the way they smile or how their hair is curled, or even their skin color, make us attracted to them and then we love them instantly.
Often too, we meet someone and it feels like we've known them all our lives, those too can be classified as love at first sight.
But the question is;
2๏ธโฃDo you believe in love at first sight?
I believe there's a difference between Love, attraction, and Lust.
Attraction is what appeals to our mind and eyes immediately, there is no way we talk to someone or even listen to someone whom we are not attracted to in the first place.
Why do you think someone stares at you when you walk past them and even tries to walk up to you to start a conversation?
We have love at first sight for objects, take for an instant, you see a very fancy dress, phone, or car and instantly you love it, simply because you love the color, style, or something about it, it goes for pets too and the list is endless, you find yourself daydreaming about owning it and flaunting it, whenever your mind recalls that object you wear a very wide smile.
In a similar vein, we all love good and beautiful things, some of us have already had an imaginary spec in our head as to what we want our partner to look like and as soon as we set our eyes on someone who falls in that category or someone very close, we are instantly attracted to them and maybe started to date them in our little head๐. That's the power of attraction!
Lust on the other hand is an intense sexual desire we feel toward someone, we crave them all the time, mesmerize by their touch, and when we look at them, we fantasize about having sexual relations with them, we want to be with them to satisfy our sexual urge, maybe because they have a banging body, small soft lips and the likes.
But Love?
Love is looking beyond all of these, we take our time to get to know them better, their likes and dislikes, we see we have differences but respect boundaries, and we want to be a part of their life, it takes time because it doesn't just grow overnight, love is hard work which involves communication and nurturing, it involves taking note of the little things they do for us and others.
Love involves commitment because surely you would meet with people who are finer and even more attractive, it is only true love that helps you stay committed to that one person.
Love yields good habits, because we strive to be the better version of ourselves for the ones we love.
True, attraction is the first thing that helps you notice that person, but attraction fades away with time, take for an instant a very beautiful lady without manners. As time goes by, that attraction fades away because of her bad manners, or would you continue to be attracted to someone who constantly belittles you or someone toxic even if you are attracted to them in the first place? No, they become less attractive automatically.
No wonder, people end up not even marrying their spec at the end of the day because as time pass by, it is the person who gives us peace of mind and makes us feel good and loved we end up settling for, that is where the phrase "love is blind" is coined from.
Often time, we see a very handsome man settling for someone who isn't even close to being physically beautiful, and then we ask "What did he even see in her in the first place to settle for this kind of a person?"
In conclusion;
Love, at first sight, exists no doubt, it makes you attracted to the person initially based on what you see, which prompts you to want to get closer to that person, however, you cannot call it Love until it is tested, because what you see often time isn't always what you get.
True love stands the test of time, but love at first sight or attraction fades away with time in most cases, only in rare cases would you realize it lasts longer, that is only when the love is reciprocated, and both parties are ready to put in the work, because Love is not one-sided, it is a give and take thing.
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