What we most expect, which is usually the case(as is portrayed in home videos) and in reality too is that when a girl gets pregnant, her parents lament, send her out, even beat her up, plus much more. And maybe i could understand the frustration leading to that.
I grew up in an environment where all sorts of vices happened. These were bad but were almost normal. Teenage pregnancy was no exception. Most parents would provide all they can, do all they would in the best interest and to protect their child yet they do what they please.
It's all hormones and stupid adventures. But, the girl is a teen and we, we all know that this stage is one that accompanies so many emotional and physiological changes. She's more a child and gives little thought to what aftermath her escapades might result to. I'm in no way making excuses.
One reason why, growing up and learning and thinking about these things, I didn't blame the girl much was that some of parents may not have spoken. So many parents act, they don't speak. Maybe they do, but they don't say what they should using the approiprate words.
Parents shy from sex education and failed to give proper orientation. It makes me wonder who they give that job to. I grew to realize that children with parents whom they freely converse with about any and everything rarely fall into situations as this since they have a guide. They may sometimes be considered loose depending on how freely they seem to live but they often are smarter compared to those whose parents say, 'if you hug a boy, you will become pregnant' or those whose parents don't allow a moment of breath. It could be different and, in any case, either of such girls could still make the mistake.
Teenage pregnancies are becoming rampart. Personally, if I had a child who got pregnant(I guess this is the point where the Nigerian in me says God forbid, yeah?), I would be sad. Sad because my girl who's just a baby would have to baby another baby. An experience I am most certain that she is not ready for. I'm not concerned much about public opinions and all that. People would talk until there's another story and then they move.
There's not time to beat anyone. I won't dare to even send the child out cause, to where and to whom? If my girl makes such mistake, I'll be there to make sure she takes responsibility for her actions, but, keyword, I'll be there.
By my movements and coldness, only for a short time, the girl would know how sad it makes me. I'm sure the news already would have her shaken .
I am not one who thinks that once pregnancy happens, the girl should be shipped off in marriage. Nope. It doesn't make sense to me.
For a start, I want to know who is responsible. It's not unlikely that the guy is a teenager like her, which is still sad, but if he isn't, if he's an adult, e go bloody.
Even then, i'm not sure if I'd care if he's willing to take responsibility or not. It's my child that matters to me.
But, I would want to know what she wants. It may not matter much, but I want to know what runs through her mind and what she would like. That may also inform my decision and help me know how best to help her.
And it just feels nice somewhat amd convenient that pregnancy happened when she hadn't already begun school(probably awaiting) so, she stays home and gets all the attention and care necessary.
If the admission pulls through and she thinks she can go for it and face all-and-all, that's fine. Otherwise, I would want that she stays home while I monitor her closely until she is delivered of the baby. Thereafter, we'd discuss how the baby is going to be cared for and the rest.
Getting pregnant is not an end. It's only a pause. It's not an indication of anything that halts the motion or cause of her life. She could ho on to be who or whatever she pleases while we seek ways to look after the child.
Mistakes do happen, but sha, e go good make this one end for imagination as I take write am.
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