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In recent times I have come to fully understand the meaning of the famous statement "Change is the only constant thing in life". This is because almost everything is subject to change, and change itself is an integral part of life. Most times we tend to change various aspects of our lives such as the kind of food we eat, the way we dress, the relationships we keep, the environment we live in, our jobs, our belief system, and our lifestyle in general. As people will often say "Life is dynamic and not static", and when you say something is dynamic it simply means that that thing changes, it does not always remain in a particular way, rather it transforms or evolves at different points in time.
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We humans are social animals whose views and perspectives about life changes as we age, or as a result of our level of exposure and education.
Before now I used to believe in certain ideologies but over time I have come to realize that my perspective towards those ideologies or those things I used to believe in has changed probably due to growth or because now I am better informed and enlightened.
I would love to share some examples of things I used to believe and why I don't believe in them anymore as well as my reasons for not believing in them anymore.
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"Experience is the best teacher". The younger me believed that experience is actually the best teacher but over the years I have tried to critically appraise that statement and I discovered that experience Isn't always the best teacher. I don't have to experience something firsthand before I take precautionary measures or avoid being in that situation. It's more or less like saying I need to have been burnt by fire before I know that my hand can get burnt if I put it inside fire or I need to steal and be caught and probably prosecuted before I will know that stealing is bad or I need to first be sacked from my job before I'll know that if I fail to do the job I was employed to do that I can get laid off (be sacked)and trust me the list is endless.
For me, you don't have to wait to experience something before you learn. By observing things, people, or patterns one can actually learn to do things better or learn to refrain from doing certain things.
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Prior to this time, I used to belong to the school of thought that believes that being a good person automatically makes everybody love you but I don't believe in that anymore. I have come to realize that the supposed "good people " by society's standards are the ones that get treated badly the most by people. I have come to understand that being a good person doesn't guarantee people's love or loyalty to you, yes certain people would naturally get attracted to you and gravitate towards you because of the kind of person you are, and there are still a lot of people that wouldn't like you which is no fault of yours but because they may be too blind to see the good virtues you possess or probably they may be envious of you or that's just who they are.
Rather, than trying to always make people love you to the point of displeasing yourself to please others just be yourself and the people who will cherish you for who you are will definitely find you and will always want to identify with you.
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Lastly, I grew up hearing that the most successful people in life are those born with a silver spoon (ie those born into wealthy families) and while growing up I held on to that, but over the years I have come to find out that, that statement isn't always true. Yes, being born into wealth gives you certain kinds of privileges and platforms but the individual's ability to optimize this platform positively is what determines if they will be successful in life or not.
I have seen people from very humble backgrounds turn out to be super successful and wealthy while certain people born into affluence have nothing to show, all they have is probably their family’s name. As my mentor would always say "What differentiates successful people from unsuccessful people is the mind", if you're able to use your mind productively and steer it towards the right direction and be ready to put in the work, be consistent, go for information and always find better and smarter ways of doing things then you can be successful regardless of the kind of background you came from.
So these are just a few of the things I used to believe in but stopped believing because I now know better. I would love to know your take on this topic.
I hope everyone who reads this enjoys it.
Xoxo
Federicah ❤
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