Life is not and shouldn't be a competition, We all are uniquely made with different kinds of stories, and our journey is different though we might all aim to achieve one life goal or another.
We live in a world that sometimes makes it seem we shouldn't be happy for the success of others, as if when others fail or are suffering it will add to our success. So this makes some of us so much bitter when they see others doing better than they are. Some derive happiness when people close to them are suffering.
In one particular episode of Bob Heart Abishola Abishola's uncle(Tunde) was seen advising her to learn how to keep her achievement to herself that people find others' happiness irritating and I was like o boy, that is sad but very true.
To me, I think this is the most stupid thing people ever have to do. Why find others' happiness irritating? Why tear each other apart when we should be holding each other's hands to grow?
Something happens to me a while back that birth this topic in my response to this week's #hivenaija weekly prompt
Like I have this person very close to me, and for a very long time, I thought we are each other a ride-or-die kind of, this is a person I will go to all for just for her to succeed in anything she chooses to do. But then I noticed that when something good happens to me, she has a way of trying to downplay my success and when I try to call her attention to it she will be kind of oh, she was just joking. Really, like my life is a joke to her or something.
The funny thing is, this person has always acted like she truly cares, but waited till good things start happening to me before she could show her true color.
Slowly, I learn to redraw myself from such kinds of friendship, though I forgave her but I'm better off with that kind of friend.
Some see others' success as just a reminder of their failure, hence they will never be happy for you no matter how good or kind you are to them, these kinds of people are what some of us know as the village people or bad bellies. Sadly they are everywhere, they can't help you but only wait to see you fail or suffer and sometimes they sabotage your effort.
Some family members are guilty of tearing each other down, competing with each other unnecessarily when they are supposed to join hands, work together and become better.
This kind of behavior breeds hatred and insecurity among family members and friends. It makes people lonely as they can become isolated from others because of their unfree mindset and insecurity.
Our life journey is different so why hate others for their success? When we can be happy for one another, work diligently on our goals and wait for our time of success.
I will chip in here a song by the legend Micheal Jackson hold my hands
Yeah
Yeah
This life doesn't last forever (hold my hand)
So tell me what we're waiting for (hold my hand)
We're better off being together (hold my hand)
Than being miserable alone (hold my hand)
If we learn to hold each other's hands, life can become easier and we have a better chance of being alright in the end.
Our struggle is different, our story is unique, and our success period might be different but in the end, we can succeed. Competition is nothing but ugliness.
This is one thing among the things I love about a decentralized platform like hive. On the hive, people are made to realize that everyone's success depends on helping one another and that is what makes us stick. No ugly competition, just good vibes everywhere you turn.
This kind of gives me hope, as I know, the more people that get to join us here the more the world could be a better place.
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