Naija's parents are amazing na when are you bringing home a husband spoils them lol.
Usually, I don't have reasons to lie to my parents, at least not that I could remember. Possibly because I'm not a good lier, so I rather just come clean from the beginning. I see no point in telling lies to them if I'm going to ends up getting busted faster than I could say Jack!
But something happened two years after my Nysc that left me with no other choice than to tell them just what they wanted to hear.
My parents were no longer having any of my excuses as to why their 28 years old daughter is yet to get married like some of her age mates. My dad is the type that when he wants you to do something he will not rest until you do it. All my effort to make them understand that I needed time to heal from a previous relationship, find out what I truly want for myself and as well find my feet financially proved abortive.
The pressure from them to get married was just too much. Sometimes I hate picking up my dad's calls because I knew it would all end with Are you seeing someone by now? And when he was not doing that, he was putting pressure on Mom to speak to me. I hated this so much, it was making me lose concentration on myself, as well as on my business. Like why can't they just understand I wasn't ready?
At some point, I knew I needed to take some drastic steps to buy myself time when I noticed they start visiting prayer houses to find out why I wasn't married.
At this point, visiting home from Lagos during the festive period became difficult for me because I knew what their expectation was. And since I wasn't ready to rush myself with just any available relationship so I devised a grand plan with a friend. This happens to be the biggest lie of my life, but given the situation I was in then, I will do it over again just to make them happy and as well buy myself time till I'm ready.
There was this very close friend of mine, that we both based in Lagos and he happens to be visiting our hometown in 2018. He thought I was joking when I told him I wanted to hire him as my fiance to be presented to my parents. He called me crazy and laughed out loud. But after a while, he agreed to play along.
When we got to my hometown, he met with my parents and they liked him. After getting to know him, he was told to bring some of his family representatives as soon as he is ready for a kind of family introduction.
After the whole thing, we went back to Lagos but as faith will have it, something wonderful happened on that journey.
My now husband and I reconnected again during that period, even though we had always known each other for many years and that was the beginning of a story that leads to our marriage life as we tied the knot in 2022.
Along the line, I had to come out clean to them, apologize, and ask for their forgiveness, and of course, they forgave me with all their heart.
Even though they always strive and want what is best for us, Parents need to learn not to pressure their children into marriage. It has led some to live a life full of lies or in the worst cases pick the wrong life partner due to a lack of patients.
This is my entry into this week's hive-Naija community writing prompt which can be found here.
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