Love is a very mysterious thing, ofcourse it has been a reality for some, I've read a lot of stories about how couples who had been crazily in love all of a sudden fall off the radar of love and that once treasured feeling is gone.
One question had always been on my mind and that is, how do people who were once madly in love, who could not sleep a night without each other, who could barely stay a minute without calls, text or Dm's all of a sudden turned cold towards another, lost all sense of love, care, attention, how, when and where did they turn the page to become some total stranger....
Few days ago I was having a chat with my partner and we really needed to have that discussion, cause i was certain the feeling was fading, I recall when we started, which is much so true for most stories, you see that first three months of love will always be filled with ever blissful memories, the butterflies in your bellies are all happy and jumping but then as time goes on, gradually little by little it begins to fade off....
One of the things we really talked about was communication, you see this is were most people get it all wrong and head into marriage with the same mindset, I will tell you what, when a man chases after a woman and finally gets her, the loving is amazing right from day one, then pride will set in, pride in the sense that the i-have-gotten-it mentality crips in, so now either both or one of the party now pays less attention to what attracted both of them in the first place...
communication key to keeping love alive
First off why or how do people fall out of love, whether married or not, you've seen and heard people called of engagement or even worst turned their backs on the day of wedding, what happened? It's not magic or all of a sudden thing, communication started dying gradually without them knowing, paying less of attention to what matters most, overlooking very tiny details of what ought to be treasured, why do people fall out of love? How and when did it start?
It would be a long read but I will just find a spot and end it, the conclusion of the whole matter is if anything affects your line of communication love will start starving am6d gradually it will die off even without both partners knowing, so Communication is key and it's paramount amd should be treated as a top priority.
What would I do ? If I found out that I've fallen out of love with my partner a year after our wedding
Simple I will retrace my step to where I lost it, relationship lives on genuine commitment intentional communication between both parties, falling out of love means there are certain things I started neglecting little by little, either my attention is shifted by something else and most importantly this is the nature of ladies, The craving for attention so to keep love alive I will need to keep feeding it intentionally everyday, restore communication and give my partner more attention, like going back to how we started with buying of gifts, going out for dates and reignited the passion that bond us together, this must be mutual not one sided...however someone must be willing to initiate the process sooner or later this will be reciprocated.
