How interesting is it to confidently jump from one person to another, devaluing yourself all in the name of bed enjoyment? What will it profit someone to enjoy all the sensations of the bed and lose his/her value and integrity? What will the person use in exchange of the integrity that was lost?
The way some people see fornication is like as if they've gained the whole world all because of a temporary pleasure and flashy lifestyle. Well, some people do have one or two reasons to back their lifestyles up. For instance, some of them will tell you that its due to their past experiences in their relationships or probably due to what their friends had gone through in the past in which they've learnt from.
Some ladies will categorically say it that they don't want to go through any phase of suffering hence, they can not be in a single relationship as they want multiple streams of income. They've turned relationships to business centers and their bodies as a point of sales in which they use their private parts as an exchange for money. Some men will also tell you that they can not date one lady as they will get tired of dating her if she's the only one that they're dating. Some men will even compare their relationships to food that they'll say that they can't keep eating rice every day, and that they need to change their food else, they'll get tired of eating just one type of food.
My last relationship was an eye opener and an uphill. I also learnt that there's nothing that you'll do for a fornicator that will keep their mind away from the act especially when its already part of their life.
I decided to be in a relationship with someone much younger than I, thinking that there will be respect for me, and I will be able to have peace in abundance since she wouldn't have gotten much experience in relationship like that. When we started chatting, she was a very kind, caring and loving person whom I was so obsessed with and after a long time of being friends, I decided to ask her for a relationship because of the cordial feeling that I had for her.
After few days, she gave a positive response and we started dating. Then, I felt like the luckiest man in the world because of how much I loved her. I thought I had seen the peace that I desired, not knowing that I had just subscribed for disastrous relationship.
The relationship was going on smoothly for over a year until her second birthday in the relationship came up. Before her birthday, I had explained to her that I might not be able to do much due to the fact that I had spent some money on an impromptu contributions in school. Oh I forgot to tell you that we were in the same school then.
On her birthday, I wished her as usual, made calls to her and sent the little I could offer by transferring some cash to her which she appreciated. Her birthday fell on a Saturday and we both had classes on that day (we weren't in the same department and level though). After the lectures, we met in the school and I suggested we go to my place so that at least, we can cook some delicacies but she rejected the idea, saying that she has a place to go to. After much pressure from me to her, she finally opened up and told me that a male friend wants to take her out for the birthday which I never reacted to. I just told her that I will love to meet with the guy so as to appreciate him since he said that the guy will be coming to pick her up. Immediately, she shouted at me saying that "Do I want to spoil her appointment?" Out of curiosity, I asked her what she meant and she said that if the guy should see me, he won't take her out again. In short, I discovered that she was in another relationship inside our relationship.
I was so annoyed, but after several pleas and promises from her, I agreed to continue the relationship, and we continued, though I observed that she was starting to disrespect me in diverse ways.
After some time, it was exam period,, and On a Sunday afternoon, I called her on the phone to hear from he,r, and she said she was fine. After an hour, I just had the feeling of hearing her voice once again, so I called, but this time around, she raised her voice on me and insulted me, telling me that I was disturbing her. I was shocked and out of annoyance, I went straight to her house and as I was about to enter through the gate, I saw her moving outside of the passage to the corridor with the same guy that she promised me that they had broken up; the same guy that took her out on her birthday.
I was really furious that day and confronted her that the guy later confessed to me that they had been dating for 5 months and immediately, I had to also open up to the guy that we've been dating for almost 2 years. The guy was shocked after hearing what I said and out of annoyance, he left. Instead of angrily going home, I went inside her room to wait for her to come in and explain all that happened. After three minutes, she came in and said to my face that I had finally seen what I was looking for and for the first time in my life, she told me that she had told me that she couldn't date only one person and that I will feel too special but if I know that I have a rival that I will perform my responsibilities.
At that moment, I knew that she was obsessed with fornication because, for someone who is not a virgin to constantly have privacies with another man who is not her boyfriend, there will surely be forms of intimacy between them. Thank God that we separated because I thought she was the best girl in the world hence, I was afraid of losing her, not knowing that God had a super plan for me. At the moment, I am grateful for the woman that I have in my life right now. She is really the definition of peace. She is just everything that I desired and I am glad that I left my previous relationship.
This is my story and I hope you learnt something. Your contributions and opinions are highly welcome as this space is created for us to learn.
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