I noticed in our world when it comes to love or when two people fall in there they only focus on a few important things. Things like, physical attributes, trust, common interests, wealth and plans. Leaving out the most important question or part which is their medical compatibility. Especially for people who are not together just for the fun of it but because they love themselves and want to share their lives as one, making babies etc.
The truth is that they forget to put this particular part in check. And when that question is not asked, It goes ahead of them to become a problem later in their future. If care is not taken, it might even tamper with their plans of making babies, making healthy babies, and even their finances. Or even ruining an innocent baby's life.
Medical compatibility is a topic that isn't talked about much. A topic we should shine more light on the more to enlighten the ignorant and help save the future generation of pain and regret. I must commend the handlers of this community for choosing this as the topic for the prompt of this week.
Okay, so the question now is: What is medical compatibility matter?
In simple terms, medical compatibility means that your health status compliments that of your spouse. It simply means that the condition of your health can work together with that of your partner and in no way whatsoever will it clash. And when you get to make babies, you make healthy babies.
So what exactly in your health are we talking about?
We're talking about your genotype, your genetic issues, fertility, blood types or group etc. Let me break it down more.
Now if in your gene or DNA you happen to carry a trait of sickle cell anaemia (AS or SS) and your partner does the same too. There's every tendency that your kids will end up with sickle cell anaemia. And this can affect the overall condition of that child, leading to regular crises, and affecting his or her quality of life and even the family. Trust me you don't want your kid going through that pain. Trust me, you don't even want to experience it.
Not just that, not being compatible in your sexual or fertility health can affect you making babies. Or other diseases. So, these are some of the reasons medical compatibility matters a lot.
When is the right time to Check if you're medically compatible
For me, I think the right time to know or check if you're medically compatible is when or before that relationship gets too serious or even at an early talking stage.
Trust me it's better to know earlier. You don't want to go through the heartbreak that comes with finding yourself later, maybe when you guys have invested a lot of your time, energy, body and soul in that relationship. Maybe you're already engaged then you get to know about it. The pain is double of what you bargained for.
You won't just deal with the pain of realising you're not compatible but also with the pain of leaving someone you love so much. Someone you have dreamt of and wished to spend the rest of your life with. So the only advice I have is before that relationship gets serious, even in that talking stage, know how compatible you are.
So please, do not hide it from your spouse. Don't lie about it because you want to get married to him or her so badly. The truth will always reveal itself. Don't put an innocent child through pain or suffering. Ask that you run a quick test with your partner to know your status. Go for counselling, communicate, and seek advice.
You never can tell there might be alternatives, there might be a way out. The importance of this topic cannot be overemphasised.
Remember prevention is always better than cure