Change has always been a constant in life. A statement that is objective and universally agreed to be true. In life, we keep on learning, relearning and unlearning. As such, our mindsets change and paradigm shifts happen having an effect on our outlook and perspective in life. Therefore, what I see today and how I see things today might change tomorrow.
Solitude and self-reflection is something I have always been big and I think it is important to mention that in a very fast and busy world that we live in with its daily struggles. Having an alone time to think maybe during walks, strolls, reading a book. During hard times, most people often think to start working tirelessly but taking some quiet time to think might help and go a long way. I still always had a hard time finding the line or what you call boundaries when it came to sacrificing my time for others who needed me or my time. I used to think that filling my cup first before others simply translated to me being selfish, inconsiderate and unloving. But now, I have a clearer distinction between self-love and being selfish infact, now, I know well that filling my cup first before filling others’ is something I must do to be able to sufficient and efficient in loving others.
While still practicing self-love and loving others, I’m learning to balance being considerate of people I love while still prioritizing myself. However, this does not change the sentiment that have built up overtime because I have seen people who claim to be practicing self-love but are just really inconsiderate and well, selfish.
Self-sabotage is something we all, most times unintentionally. From doubting what we are to what we can do. Self-doubt can come in like a normal thought but is infact, far from normal. It makes you lose opportunities to be more, to do more all because you don’t believe you can do it. I have an instance, one of whom is a distant friend. He narrated his story of losing a major deal with a big company because he thought himself to be little and the company was too big to work with a little man. It was later that he found out that the company had infact wanted to work with him but had thought he did not care.
Also, self-sabotage can come in the form of not asking for help when you need it. It can make you feel needy, weak and even stupid but this clip I had watched from the movie euphoria where a girl said she felt stupid and the other girl replied her saying that everybody feels strup0id and that she herself felt stupid until she decide to stop feeling stupid. Asking for help when you need it is infact, a strength not a weakness. Knowing you tried is more than enough. What’s the worst that could happen…..rejection? asking for help not getting? Think of that reason you might not want to ask for help, kill it or better still just ask for help and be content that you At least you tried.
Before I sign out, hive-naijans, get up here, lets danceeee! Let’s danceeeeee! I so cannot believe that I got the first place last week, pinch me! Okay, in practice of my killing self-sabotage, “I knew I would win but no scratch that, I never expected it but oh, thank you and congratulations to the others and every one of us who entered for last week and will enter this week.