We often don't realize it, but a lot of our personal relationships are shaped by our parents' relationship. The ups and downs in their relationship from childhood, the good and bad moments, the way they express love or the way they resolve conflicts—all this remains in our subconscious and affects our own relationships.
My parents' relationship was always based on respect, responsibility and mutual understanding. They always cared for each other, although there were arguments at times. But I noticed that they never disrespected or belittled each other. This has had a profound impact on my life. I value mutual respect and understanding in relationships. If there is a problem, I try to solve it over time rather than reacting immediately, as I have seen parents do.
Another thing that deeply influenced me was the beautiful division of responsibilities of my parents. I have seen since my childhood, my father used to run from one end to another end of the month for work. On the other hand, my mother not only took care of us, but also handled all the household responsibilities single-handedly. But surprisingly, this reality never caused any bitterness or conflict between them. Dad always tried to take care of mom even from afar, looked after us, and mom respected him deeply. Their understanding taught me that relationships are not just about being together or seeing each other every day, but about mutual respect, trust, and caring for each other.
But in some cases I have also chosen a different path from them. My parents were very emotional, not expressing their feelings easily. It often felt like they left things unsaid, which might have created distance between them. I tried to change this in my life. I believe the greatest strength of a relationship is open communication. So I always try to express my likes, dislikes or pains.
My parents' relationship taught me an important lesson—relationships are not just emotions, they are also a responsibility. Even if there is love, if there is no mutual respect, understanding and sense of responsibility, then the relationship does not last. I have adopted much of the way they have shown, and in some cases I have developed my own approach.
Ultimately, our parents' relationship is one of the biggest influences in our lives, but we can only live by imitating it—not that. Based on our experiences, perceptions, and our own decisions, we can create our own path in relationships, where there will be necessary lessons, but also opportunities for independent thinking.