If and when I raise children, I'll never... Share what your dream child-raising would never include
Children are special gifts from God and they are the greatest responsibilities God will place in your hands.
Raising a child properly is God's doing. There is a saying that the mind of the child is like a blank slate, and whatever you write in it is what will remain there. In raising a child, one needs to have a basic knowledge of the developmental psychology of a child.
Children have different levels of development, they exhibit different things as they are growing up, which can be a result of different factors, the peers, the environment, and even parents' activities at home.
As for me, I am training my children the way I was trained by my parents and adding more things, likewise doing some things differently based on what the world is evolving into.
In this write-up, I'll be talking about the things I will never include in my child-raising.
First of all, what I see that is most inappropriate in the presence of a child is violence.
Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.
I mean violence on the child or violence with someone else in the presence of a child.
Physically or emotionally harming your child, probably because you're upset and so angry with some things they exhibit, or violence with your spouse in the presence of your child, will bring negative effects to the psychological development of that child and his or her general well-being.
Secondly, the last thing I would do is neglect my children, I tell the people around me that if I don't eat, my children must be fed, if I don't have clothes, my children's school fees must be settled.
If I can't afford to take care of them, I will rather borrow, even if I have to be insulted and embarrassed, I do not care, as long as that they will be fine.
I brought them into this world, and it is my responsibility to make sure they are in their best condition.
Also, the most dangerous unconscious psychological killer of a child's self-esteem is harsh discipline.
Raise your words, not voice
So many parents don't know that.
Most times, my wife would always quarrel with me for over-pampering my children, but I tell her I am not. And I always quarrel when she gets too harsh on them all in the name of correcting them.
I always tell her she doesn't have to yell or spank them, there are other ways they can be corrected when they misbehave.
I relate with my kids as if we are friends, and I do that to build their self-esteem, I always make them understand what is wrong from what is right, so when they misbehave and my wife yells and wants to spank them, I stylishly caution her and take it up.
I begin to talk, they understand they've done something wrong and tell them the kind of punishment I'll have to give them just to serve as a warning to be of their best behavior some other time and it works.
Dictating for my kids is another thing I will never do, my parents dictated so many things for me in my life and I still blame them for it, and I vouch I will always allow my children to decide whatever they choose to do or become, all I'm going to do is guide them in their decisions.
Every child is different and unique, they develop in different ways, and different factors affect them, as a result, it takes a lot of work on the part of the parents to study their behavior closely and carefully and know the right way to approach whatever they do. Remember, your children are your future and the future needs to be well molded.