Hello, Hive Naija. I hope we are doing very well and that our day went well too. It's Hive Naija's weekly engagement week 67, and it feels so good to be here again.
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There are times you are choked because you need to help other people financially, and some of the times they do not always understand the fact that there are times people face financial problems too; they just think that you need to help them. In this case, you need to know how to do it politely so that they will not start thinking you do not care about them and hate you too.
If you want to help someone, I feel you should make them understand this at that first point. They should be accountable to you for whatever they got the money for. If someone asks you for money, make sure that he or she has done that thing, and you need to ask that person about it. And you need to also tell that person your financial level and how you prioritise your financial life. Let people know that you save, and let that person know what and what you are doing for life. If anyone asks you to give him some money for business, you should follow up on that person, even if you are sure he or she is actually doing well in the business he or she asked for.
Try to mould that person not to be dependent. My cousin did this to me, and I am forever grateful to him. If someone is asking too much, then tell that person what to do so that he or she will not really ask people for money. Some people usually say, "Don't just give fish; show me how to fish too." If people are taught how to fish and not given fish every time, then it will be very easy for everyone to stay without having to fall financially.
There are people that would want to manipulate or guilt-trip you, especially when you don't give them what they ask you. Build yourself to the point where nobody can blackmail your emotions; let them know your stands, and let them also know that they can do without you. Do not let anyone make you feel bad because you are not able to give them what they asked of you; let them understand your priorities too, and sometimes you need to also act weak and ask them for help too so that they will not really think that you do not need help.
Finances are very important, so you don't need to be unwise when you are making decisions. Help people and also help them learn to be self-sufficient and then maintain healthy relationships with people. Dismiss people in a polite way.
It is very important to know your financial strength so that you will not exceed the limit to help. Like I have written above, do not act strong every time so that everyone will not feel you have everything. Make sure you save for the future and also help people too, but don't exceed your limit.