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With what I have seen so far, when it come to sharing your struggles as a parent to your offsprings, it is kind of a hard task to do based on some certain things, parent always see it as a cross to bear, it is their responsibilities to take care of their children and when hands are tight they always try every possible means to keep it a secret even when it is really hurting them. They do believe we are too young to understand the reality of life like my dad do say, I can't count how many times I have caught him head down thinking, at times he will just pretend to take a nap, I even wish I can be a mind reader then just to know what is going on within him, is not like we are that rich but he do make sure he give us the basic needs but if it isn't available then it is not available. It took me a while before I could really understand why they had to keep the struggles, maybe because we are way too young and they don't plan to stress us mentally, they might thing what can we really do, what power do we have as kids, we can't understand was the motto
But they really got it wrong, we do understand the situation of things, yes we are young but we know the right from the left and there are lot of reason to actually make us understand the reality of things. I was around 15 when things change, dad gone and things were hard for mom, it was as if we were accelerating down a hill and there was no brake, as the first boy of the house I knew some duty will fall on me but I had no idea of what to even do, we were somehow caged, we weren't allow to socialize, always indoor but now it felt different. Had to learn some computer skills for some month and that was when i start working as a computer operator to earn for the time being and ease some workload at home.
I will stay it is a good thing letting your children knowing the reality of things, life is full of up and downs, it can't always be sweet, it is good to know what is going on at some certain time or should I say age related, around age 8-9 is a good time to start letting your children know some certain things, train and teach them about financial things, we do have this saving box them, any money we get at a gift, we save some of it, my mom always say it is a bad thing to eat with 10 fingers, that made us save yearly and during christmas we can get what ever we want. Through that I get to know how to save more even though mom do collect part of it (mother's power) and it still help till now, you really don't need to tell your children the big big part but there are ways to tailor things to their level of understanding. So it is a big Yes for me, share your family struggles with your kids at age 8-9 because it build some courage within and prepare them for what lies ahead