I can say one of the longest journeys in life is that of marriage. The bond between couples, if God willing, lasts longer than any other relationship in life. I was deep in thought a few days ago, thinking about a sentence my dad told my mum long ago.
“You have lived under my umbrella more than you lived under your dad’s, so I am more like a dad to you”.
My dad said this out of fun. But to me, I took it into my hands and started thinking in-depth about it. So, even as siblings, there is surely a limited timeframe for us to be with each other. At some point, we get to disperse and find our ways.
As children under our parents, it's just a limited time. At most, we spend 3 decades with them, then have to find our ways. But as for couples. Their time frame with each other remains unlimited. So far, they are together and not divorced; only death can separate them.
I have seen couples spend 7 decades together with themselves, what else do they want to know about each other if not for the path they sworn to be with each other even in time of rain and sun, in time of joy and sorrow, the long journey ahead of them, the challenges, the rough and smooth path. It's not something easy.
I have always appreciated couples who are together till old age. This is because they already get to practice patience, endurance, love, peace, respect, and loyalty. All of these are not something easy.
Someone once told me that I can’t call myself a patient soul yet not until I stay under the same roof with a woman and have no issues. Then I can be called a patient individual. I really wish to have a nice time with everyone around me. Because with time I have learned to practice how to understand people around me for who they are, and also took patience as my watchword.
So if I am getting myself into any marriage, I will make sure I try as much to level up with these attitudes of mine, so as to be able to meet up with the standard of whichever challenges that will come my way in the marriage.
I have always wanted a woman who would be understanding and patient enough to tolerate my flaws. I would also appreciate it if she were like a best friend to me. I don't want some kind of formal lifestyle where everything will be so boring. Nop. Someone who can make fun of me and I will also do the same, knows when to give respect and when to be open-minded.
I don't really care about a career type. But I just want a lady who is honest with her every move and action. When there is honesty, loyalty won't be an issue, and loyalty bridges the gap of love.
I have been with different families apart from my immediate family. And I can say the best thing a man could do for his woman is to absolutely take care of her. I don't know what the future will turn out to be, but I have a solid mindset that I will give my best when it comes to giving care to the woman in my life.
In conclusion, marriage isn't for the weak, it's for the strong ones who are ready to journey together as one. People from different backgrounds, families, upbringings, mindsets, and character want to come together as one. The merge won't be as easy as expected. But with patience and endurance, it will be overcome.
