Honestly I believe in good relationship with people but there are times that you will let some people leave not because you hate them but because the bonds is no longer strong and never like the way it used to be, some people are in our lives for a period of time and when the time comes they will always disappear, my mother will always say that twenty children can never play for twenty years and I agree with her on this.
I once had a friend whom I believed so much in, she was the closest person to me, we practically do things together, no secret between us, we created a strong bond that no one can invaded, we grew up together, played together, and even attended the same school. Everyone in the neighborhood knows that we are best of friends.
After we graduated from the university, she opened up to me about her dream, she said she wanted to travel out of the country for a better life. No one will hear this and not be happy, she had a good plans because that is the best move she wanted to take, She had plans to apply for her master’s degree abroad, she told me everything and indeed was happy and encouraged her to go for it.
When her visa was granted, it felt like a dream come true, I was so happy because I wanted the best for her. She told me about the news and we celebrated in our own little way, I screamed, we shouted for joy, that night we couldn't sleep, we were full of joy and jubilating around the house, we started checking what she would pack and how to support her with the money I had that period, I even supported her with the little money I had, and my parents also gave their support because they loved her like family. I truly believed she would never forget me or our bond, no matter where she went.
At first, after she traveled, everything was still fine. We kept in touch often, we can never skip a day without talking to each other, we prioritize our friendship, though the we had time differences but that was never a barrier to our friendship, I would stay awake just to talk to her on video calls or mostly leave a message for her and she would reply, we would chat as if distance did not exist. But after some months, I noticed that things are changing, She started giving me attitude. My calls no longer made her happy instead, it felt like I was disturbing her. She would delay for a week before replying to my messages or sometimes not reply at all.
I tried all I could to hold on to our friendship, I pushed the relationship by checking on her, leaving her messages on social media because I wanted to know what the problem was, I do not want to lose my best friend just like that, I had to keep on forcing myself to communicate with her but I could see clearly that she was no longer interested. It hurt me deeply because this was someone I grew up with and shared everything with. I could not understand why she had to change after getting a new life abroad. I felt abandoned and unimportant.
After some months of pushing myself to her, I decided to stop because I felt she no longer belong to my world, we are different people entirely, friendship shouldn't be one sided, I tried my best for more than a year just to get her attention but it was as if I'm a disturbance to her new world so I had to let go.
Then one fateful day, I opened my WhatsApp and her message popped up, all my thoughts was maybe she wanted us to reconnect again. But when I read her message, I felt cold inside of me, my expectation was futile, she did not reach out because she missed me, she only needed my help. In that text she wrote that One of her colleagues was coming to Nigeria, and she wanted me to buy some local foodstuffs and give them to the person to take back to her. Just imagine the audacity from her.
After reading her messages I just ignored as if I didn't see it, no reply from me as well, she would drop lots of messages but I would read and pass, her behavior made me saw her true colors clearly. She had ignored me when I was there for her but when she needed something, she remembered me.
This taught me a great lesson that not everyone you support will value you the same way. Some people will forget your sacrifices once they find a better life. It hurt, but it also made me stronger. I now know that friendship should be mutual. If someone truly values you, they will not make you beg for their attention or only call you when they need help.
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This is my entry to this week's episode of #smp community prompt #smp-w31
