If there is actually something I have come to discover, it is the fact that there are certain things we didn't pay attention to whereas we should pay attention to them. One of the subjects topic in the society that looks not to be given so much attention or is so much diluted is Marriage. For me and based on others people life experience that I have witness, I have actually come to discover that marriage is a life defining decisions.
I have seen and heard a whole lot of people's life turn upside down due to wrong marriage decisions and I have actually seen a lot of people lifes turns out positively because they were able to make the right choice. For me, I hardly believe that so much attention should be given to wedding. Instead more attention should be given to marriage because wedding is just an occasion whereas marriage is forever.
The mistake people make is they always thing feelings or physical attraction is more than enough for them to enter marriage. Absolutely wrong. That should not be so. For me, I believe marriage should involve a talk of purpose, more about compatibility and many more. Who you are ever getting married to, you must always imagine seeing yourself with this same person for the next 50 years.
I personally when growing up, I have witness a lot of people have different specs about who they want to marry. For some people, they always prefer to marry someone that fit their physical spec. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying it is a bad thing. What I am just saying is it should not be that alone. Girls most especially, they always dream getting married to a tall, handsome and dark or yellow man and must be rich. Don't get me wrong all these spec are good but they are not enough.
What will sustain you guys in marriage is not only money. There are something's money can not buy in marriage. There are something's those physical attraction or spec that we usually crave for in our partner will not be able to buy. There is more in marriage than those physical attributes. I personally, if I will be getting married to any one. The person must have a strong vision and purpose with me. We must have similar life goals and purpose together. We must be going in the right direction spiritually, emotionally, and even belief. Our vision must be in agreement.
Not only that, I personally, I am someone that really loves character. No matter the physical beauty you have, if your character is bad, it is a massive turn off for me. I prefer character much more than beauty and so anyone I will be getting married to must be someone of character and value. I want a wife that everyone respect, I want someone that carries herself with dignity and someone that is smart and intelligent. I prefer someone that can actually manage conflict and be able to be perfect for me character wise.
The last one I want in a woman I want to marry is that she must really be industrious. I actually want someone that is hardworking. Well for some men, they prefer a woman that is fully house wife but not me. I want someone that is hardworking, that is an established women and someone that can manage both her finances and my finances effectively. I will not want to marry someone that spend money anyhow or love money anyhow. For me if she has all these things, submission to her will not also be hard for me. I will definitely submit to her in her respect and love her with all my heart. For me personally, this is my own marriage standards and I am so sure that others might have their own personal marriage standards.