When it comes to handling life's pressure i suck at it, I'm a total wako, I don't know how to, but it's something I am learning to, because I don't know may be base on my personality-free and jovial, somehow if something is wrong with me you will know, my body language, my mood literally everything about me will tell, so it's something by the grace of God I'm overcoming gradually.
Life means different things to different people, based on a lot of factors, but the most fundamental of all is how we respond to these pressure that is coming from literally everything around us.
for a man it could be how to establish, get married, raise your own family , set up a business, or get a well paying job, taking care of the bills, siblings, daddy and mummy and pursuing your own dreams, for the ladies it could be to fulfill your own dreams, aspiration and desires, living the life you always wanted, most times getting married to the right person and on time, giving birth to kids and taking of your marriage, starting your dream business or getting a dream job, most times all these can be overwhelming and we can really get stuck in a circle trying to fix all this.
I was in this dilemma and it was too obvious a friend of mine began talking to me about suppressing all the worries and anxieties because it can really get too much, he told me the best way to handle pressure of life , to avoid anxious, worrying, regrets etc... is to
"not always expect 100% all possible outcomes"
he told me vividly in other not to fall into the wrong hands of depression, anxiety endless worries and regrets, whatever you do or whenever you are planing, always have a margin of possible expected outcomes, always factor in that variation of it might not always go as planned, because I told him I'm someone that I hate regrets and worries so what I do is to make sure I meticulously follow through every plan amd judiciously make sure it's achieved, in any case where things fall of plan, it can really tell on me as if the whole world collapse on my head, like I can't contain it.
but over time I have learnt to always factor in the other side of the coin, not everything will always go 100% as plan. if you don't factor in, the margin of variation to your plans and it eventually fails with all your hard work dedication and commitment, then you will not be able to stand the pressure..
like I said pressure of life can come in different shades of grey but how to effectively manage these pressure depends on us, life is life, it is how we react and act on what we come to see that will determine the outcome or result that we have, what do you see, what do you feel, what do you sense per time per season and what do you do with them all sum up our life experiences.
