Yes, people say we shouldn’t trust easily, just the same way we shouldn’t be highly expectant, so as to avoid heartbreak from people. This is true, but I find myself trusting easily, and that’s usually my way of giving the benefit of the doubt to play out.
If I’m being asked for help, especially to lend out money by someone who’s considered a friend or someone who’s not so close but reachable, if I refuse to help, it’s because I don’t have the means to help at that particular time, and never because of trust issues. I’ve experienced situations where people whom I’m not so close with have come to me to borrow money, and I agreed to give them at their first request. It amazed them because they expected me to refuse, considering the fact that we’re not that close and they could easily run away with the money.
But since I trust easily, once that trust is broken, forget it — the way I’ll discard the person will be like how God chased away Satan from heaven. What should I be doing with someone who can’t keep to their word??? No, not me!
Some years ago, one of my old school friends brought some work for me to render my service. After completing the job, he picked up his bag and promised to pay me in two days because he didn’t have the money at that moment. So, I let him go. And guess what? Up till today, I haven’t seen my money. He deliberately refused to pay and hasn’t come around again. The money, though very little, has broken the little connection I had with him. Of course, he can’t dare to come around to shine his teeth — he dares not! He singlehandedly killed off the trust and the little connection we had.
Do I rebuild the trust?
I don’t know how to do that. Even if I accept for things to come back, I will be very skeptical whenever I want to give out money or do the same thing where trust was breached the other time. Of course, that’s it — once beaten, twice shy.
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