Well, as human I'm not perfect, but I'm a good guy to some extent. I have my flaws and all too. And back then, I'd think once you show up for people and make yourself available for them, then you're a good person. Even though it is the truth, most people do misuse that opportunity and take it for granted.
And even though I knew that, still I didn't stop showing up for people, there are times I do things and fon get an ordinary thank you, but maybe because of the kind of person I am, I still keep on doing what I do.
Even though at a point, I had to let go of something. So, there was this woman I work for, as a caterer, we go to events, travel and all, this woman sabi use person enh, and she will still pay little at the end. There are times I stay over night at her place working, setting and arranging the dishes and all that we will be using to work the next day, or where we are traveling too, at the end, she will still pay me same amount she pays those that only help her to cook, or those that I joined in serving at the event.
One day, after I have worked and stressed, I had to go rest, even the other caterers didn't bother me, they were like, allow him. This woman came and started insulting me, and saying different things, that was the last day I worked for her. I quit, she thought it was a joke and even sent her son to beg me, but then, you can't keep on disrespecting me just cause you're in a bigger position., I know my worth.
Aside that, I run certain anonymous stuffs on Whatsapp sometimes, and some would even come to my DM and say things, even though they were pouring out their worries and all, and when I'm kind of too busy to respond and all, they began to act somehow, some would even say it's intentional and that I'm always online, I'm always free and all..and that's how favor began to turn into expectations.
When you make yourself available always, some people stop seeing your worth, some disrespect you, some feel they can always have access to you and they began to see you as a thing that can be used.
Till now, I still do the little that I can, u help when I can, I listen and all, I just can't change that, it's who I am.... But then, I've since began tonset certain boundaries. It is only where there's boundaries/limits and such that respect will grow. So, most times it's best to turn people down and not always make yourself available and accessible for them, it does not stop you from being kind and doing what's good.
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